Just got positive test but SO says he's infertile! - Mothering Forums
 
Thread Tools
#1 of 10 Old 07-03-2010, 05:34 PM - Thread Starter
 
pbkisses's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jul 2010
Location: usa
Posts: 2
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
I'm a week late and took a digital EPT test today and it says pregnant! Problem is that my boyfriend is infertile... or so we thought. He's 46 and never gotten anyone pregnant. He was TTC with his last girlfriend and went for fertility tests and was told it would be basically impossible. He's said several times that if I ever got pregnant it would only be because I was cheating. I'm terrified he won't believe me and will break up with me! I haven't slept with anyone else in a year and we've been dating for 5 months.

I'm 32 and have 4 other children and was determined not to get pregnant again. I'm separated from but still married to my childrens' father. I have no idea what I'm going to do!!!

It was stupid, stupid, stupid to not use birth control. I started the pill when we first got together but quit it after constant breakthrough bleeding.

I created a new account for this post because I don't want my ex to read this and know what's going on.
pbkisses is offline  
Sponsored Links
Advertisement
 
#2 of 10 Old 07-03-2010, 05:41 PM
 
kikaaaso's Avatar
 
Join Date: Apr 2008
Location: Panhandle of Florida
Posts: 262
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Oh goodness..I'm sorry things are so stressful. I wish they could test for DNA in utero..but unfortunately you'll have to wait to "prove" it to him until after the baby is born. I hope he surprises you and believes you. (((hugs)))

Wife to a wonderful husband and mom to 6 beautiful children. Also to one sweet angel, who we will always keep in our hearts 10/2012

kikaaaso is offline  
#3 of 10 Old 07-03-2010, 10:00 PM - Thread Starter
 
pbkisses's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jul 2010
Location: usa
Posts: 2
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
I told him and he actually took it well. He didn't quite believe it and had me take another test (+) but he knows I haven't cheated. Now we just have to decide what to do. He's leaving it up to me.

He's always said he's too old to want kids now and likes his life fine how it is, but he seems happy and was making jokes rubbing my belly and stuff. I'll have to talk with him more. It was hard to talk today because my kids were there.
pbkisses is offline  
 
#4 of 10 Old 07-03-2010, 10:05 PM
 
MaerynPearl's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jun 2008
Location: Oceanside, CA
Posts: 14,501
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Hopefully, he understands now that infertile does not mean unable to get pregnant but rather very difficult to get pregnant!

A man with a very low sperm count/motility could be classified as infertile... but it only takes one healthy little swimmer to make a baby... low sperm count/motility/morphology just means that theres a lot less chances with every baby dance to actually make a baby.

Artist, photographer, stay-at-home-mom and Marine wife. Mom to 4; a boy and three little girls.
MaerynPearl is offline  
#5 of 10 Old 07-03-2010, 10:17 PM
 
VroomieMama's Avatar
 
Join Date: Oct 2008
Posts: 697
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Wow! Looks like your partner is taking it well and I hope it'll stay that way.


Congrats.

I heartbeat.gif my  9/22/02  dd who likes to blahblah.gif, 4/29/09 mos old. silly & adventurous girl twins twins.gif ,  11/15/l0 girl baby.gif & my coffee drinking DH!
VroomieMama is offline  
#6 of 10 Old 07-04-2010, 02:30 PM
 
lovebeingamomma's Avatar
 
Join Date: Mar 2007
Location: RI
Posts: 1,515
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
It changes your life for the better even if you think you never wanted it...you fall in love the moment your child is born. And his belly comment is a good sign

Christian SAHM & birth doula.
lovebeingamomma is offline  
#7 of 10 Old 07-04-2010, 06:29 PM
 
Ammaarah's Avatar
 
Join Date: May 2005
Posts: 2,315
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Hopefully this will be a wakeup call for him. I don't like that he said if you got pregnant it would be because you cheated, but maybe he is changing. Hang in there - hope he stays positive.
Ammaarah is offline  
#8 of 10 Old 07-04-2010, 06:49 PM
 
Grayson's Mom's Avatar
 
Join Date: Mar 2006
Location: Western NY
Posts: 587
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Wow, all I can think is what a miracle this baby is for you both. Think of the odds that that little swimmer swam against?
Blessings on you both! Praying that everything starts to look a bit more positive for you all.

Hanna :, Wife to Chris. Mama to : Gracie (6/05), : Annie (1/07) and : Cole 7/25/09 Expecting #4 in March 10
Grayson's Mom is offline  
#9 of 10 Old 07-05-2010, 09:52 AM
 
kikaaaso's Avatar
 
Join Date: Apr 2008
Location: Panhandle of Florida
Posts: 262
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
I'm glad the conversation went well, considering!! He will probably get more and more excited as time goes on. I for one believe children are blessings...so I say a Congratulations is in order!!

Wife to a wonderful husband and mom to 6 beautiful children. Also to one sweet angel, who we will always keep in our hearts 10/2012

kikaaaso is offline  
#10 of 10 Old 07-06-2010, 12:29 AM
 
EricaRN's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jan 2010
Location: Indiana
Posts: 336
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
[QUOTE=Grayson's Mom;15588175]Wow, all I can think is what a miracle this baby is for you both. Think of the odds that that little swimmer swam against? QUOTE]



I agree. For all the problems that he's had with "infertility" it really is a miracle you got pregnant. And as long as you think he'd be a good dad to your baby then I say you got pregnant for a reason. ;-) I firmly believe everything happens for a reason... but that's just me. Hope you find some peace with whatever decision you come to.

Wife to John, Mom to Melanie (1/08), Deklan (5/09) and stork-suprise.gif due April 11, 2011 h20homebirth.gif vbac.gif & just started cd.gif
EricaRN is offline  
Reply


User Tag List

Thread Tools
Show Printable Version Show Printable Version
Email this Page Email this Page



Posting Rules  
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off
Trackbacks are On
Pingbacks are On
Refbacks are Off

Online Users: 1,233

11 members and 1,222 guests
barnetta , Deborah , Hyacinthe , idler , KerriB , lauritagoddess , lmaraial57 , omarinbox1888 , pittfler8 , PrayerOFChrist , RhiannonRain
Most users ever online was 21,860, 06-22-2018 at 09:45 PM.