This seems so dumb, but I really need some perspective...
BAckground: I am due with baby #3
in Oct. We have a small (about 1300 sq ft) house with three bedrooms. All the rooms are small, but 8yo DD's room is truly tiny - about the size of a nice walk in closet. It's been her room since she was born. 3yo DD has a larger room, maybe 10x10 or a little bigger. We decided to move the two girls into the larger room and turn the tiny room into a nursery for the new baby. Both girls were on board with this plan, especially since we promised them bunk beds and a desk for my older one, and to make the room really special and nice.
Well, my husband started switching the rooms around two days ago, and my older daughter has come UNGLUED. She is extremely upset with all the changes, is miserable in the room with her sister and worst of all - nobody is sleeping!! Since this is real life and not HGTV, it is going to take us some time to get both rooms finished, we can't just magically fix their room up in half a day and do a grand reveal. Right now they both have mattresses on the floor and most of DD#1's stuff is boxed up. They are both having a really hard time adjusting to all this, and I feel our first priority needs to be getting their room in order. My husband, however, feels like he needs to focus on getting the baby's room ready first to get that done, and also because it involves repainting/fixing some wall damage. He's told the girls that it will be two weeks before we buy their new furniture and work on their room. He and I had a fight about it last night, I can't understand why he won't consider doing their room first, he's mad because he's having to do all the work and so he feels like he should be the one to decide the order it gets done. He also feels that the 8 yo is really over reacting and that she needs to suck it up because no one has died from sharing a room with their sibling.
I just can't stand to see my daughter so miserable. She misses her room, is having trouble sleeping and wakes up the whole family, which certainly isn't improving anyone's mood. This is the second day of everyone being up since 3:00am or so. She has been crying a lot and has basically convinced herself that sharing a room is going to awful.
At this point, I just want to put the rooms back the way they were and sort out what to do with the baby later. We plan to cosleep for a little while, but not long term - that's not really an option for various reasons. Eventually, we have to put this baby somewhere. I would also (reluctantly) consider putting the baby in with they 3 yo, but that seems like asking for sleep issues, my 3y is a good, but light sleeper and I just can't face two night waking kids at once. Of course, that's what I have now!!! WIll it ever get better? My husband thinks this whole thing is ridiculous, and that the kids will adjust eventually and that it is much better to get it worked out now than wait til the baby's here. He also strongly feels that we shouldn't give in to the 8 yo (i.e., give her her room back) just because she is pitching a fit.
At this point I don't trust any decisions I'm making, I'm so tired and hormonal. This has been a hard pregnancy and I'm not coping well. Everyone is miserable, not sleeping well, and mad at each other. Two sisters sharing a bedroom just doesn't seem like it should be this traumatic. Other people do it EVERY DAY!!!
Has anyone had this type of experience? Does it get better? Any general advice? Am I missing something?? Please help if you can. Sorry this is so long.