To answer your question, DS is only just shy of 4, but natural consequences do come into play quite a bit. I don't really think of it as such; I mostly just make an effort to allow him to use his own judgement, within reason given his age, and then hang back and see what he decides. I can see from A to B quickly, but he can't yet, and I think it's important that he get practice making those connections by himself. We don't live in a cold climate, but this morning it was about 55 when he went outside. He was completely nude and I didn't stop him or suggest he put on clothes. He came back in immediately and asked for a jacket. Sometimes, depending on the kid, even the mild, polite suggestion of what you think they should do invites a power struggle, where they might grit their teeth and bear the cold (or whatever) just to avoid proving you right.
The situation that comes up more often in our house is DS gearing up to do something wildly unsafe. But I can usually see him stop to think about something before he does it, and if it really concerns me, I'll ask him if he feels safe doing whatever it is he's about to do. And sometimes he gets hurt, and that's okay.
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Living and loving in ATX with DH (of 7 years) and DS (3.5)