YES we have this problem too. ...I love the intelligence that natural toys have and for some reason they seem to find approperate places in my dds room and grow more beautiful as she uses them.
compaired with JUNK that I end up resenting because it has no real place and are very limited, that just = cleaning up over and over...things that seem to get uglier and uglier...
...Its funny because I'm battling inside myself often about this...do I let go of the control I thought I had? am I being too "snobby" or am I letting my dd down by not standing up for what I believe in...? Its not just natural toys. Or the Waldorf thing (i'm a waldorf graduate) its just values I think.
I value natural fibers...and cant stand polyester etc...Most people around here dont know the difference
its just normal. we recieve what I think are hiddeous gifts, but the intention from these people is so well meaning
! I hate pretending I love something I cant stand to people I do care about...but I cant stand saying I dont like their gift eitherbecause they got what they really liked...so i guess ill hang out here incase anyone's got some insight.
I do see why people gravitate toward community living where a lot of common values are shared...it would make things simple...gift = genuine excitement etc...
Michelle said it wonderfully! It is so hard though...
But like Dana said..i feel quite purposly insulted when its
a family member who you have told over and over not to waste their money on that stuff because you will just sell it on ebay...light-heartedly and then a little more seriously...and they still dont care.
That is really starting to make me mad...completly inapproperate TV programs etc...ill say to grandma..."please, no tv while dds at your house"...she comes back beaming (grandma, that is) saying... " we didnt watch any tv... only Videos" (!!) and poor dd is up all night trying to process these in-approperate vidios and crying because it was sad or someone died and she doesnt understand "why the truck crashed!!! and the man died and turned into a dog?"
so, im lurking here for some wisdom if thats ok.