First a teensy bit of back ground, DD has always been sensitive to crowded places since she was 6 months old. She does not like people being too close to her and/or kids who are "touchers" (you know the kids who grab you by the hand or arm when they want you to go some where with them or run up to you and hug you and practically knock you down) She requires her personal space and I've had no problems in the past with kids crossing her "personal boundaries" In preschool there were only 10 other kids in her class and her teacher was wonderful about personal space (i.e. no one was allowed to touch each other unless it was offered first "Will you hold my hand?" kind of thing.)In K she was in a bigger class but the kids were pretty much low key so to speak. Only one little girl in her class was a hugger and it happened to be my dd best friend (she was okay with that) We've had pretty good experiences up until now.
So here's whats happening now is dd is in 1st and while her teacher is wonderful (she was ds's teacher and dd is very comfortable with her thats why I choose her) but the school has a common lunch meaning its grades 1-4 and its noisy and crowded and dd does not like it. I work for the school where they go and its my job to supervise lunchtime, you know keep the kids from running around and such, make sure no one gets hurt. For the first 3 days when she saw me she came over and sat by me and followed me around . She didn't keep me from doing my job and the people I work with didn't bat an eye (they all have kids of their own) but I want her to at least not cry when she's at lunch, I want her not to tell me in the morning that lunch time is the worst time of day and she doesn't want to go to school because of that, I want her to find at least one friend that she's compatable with so she can play with them! Her bf from k has become friends with another girl who is too agressive for dd and she doesn't like her. I need Ideas! I thought about bringing her a coloring book and letting her sit and color while I work, that will work for a short time but what happens if I have to be absent?? Ds has the same lunchtime as her but he's busy playing with his friends and I don't want him to have to tote his little sister around all the time. It doesn't seem fair for him. What should I do?? Any suggestions? I know you mommas always have some pretty good advice!