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Does anyone else have this situation? When my son was born he was a very fussy sleeper and was up constantly and my husband could not get sleep enough to work so we ended up me sleeping with baby in one room and him in another. I was planning to get my almost 3 year old to sleep by himself and start sleeping with my husband again but now we are expecting #2 in May and I don't expect the sleeping situation to be much different. Other than we are trying to buy a house and I want to put my 3 year old in his own room, me and baby in another, and hubby in another. I want to sleep with him again but not with a baby it is just to hard and frusterating. Everyone thinks we are insane but it does not have much impact on our relationship we still have sex and have our normal relationship that we always did. It's kinda funny because my mom just had another baby 6 months ago and she ends up sleeping in the other room alot also.
 

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theer was about 6 months where my dh and I skpet apart.(Same issue) when we moved to a bigger house, ds was a year old and I said, lets try sleeping together. We added a twin size mattress to the queen on the floor and that helped some. also, ds was sleeping a tad bit better at that point.<br><br>
ds2 came along and we all 4 of us slept together since his buirth...he was much better sleeper than ds1/ maybe your second baby will bne as well.<br><br>
good luck...
 

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we also have dh in one room and ds and i in another. it was mostly because dh snores too loudly and with both dh and ds waking me i wasn't getting enough sleep. it has been this way for a year and a half.<br><br>
dh has conveniently forgotten why he is in the nursery and is planning on coming back to the master bedroom tomorrow night when his night shifts end at work. even though i remind him he isn't out because of ds, he is out because of his snoring he has somehow managed to convince me to try this again. not to opimistic though.<br><br>
i think if it works for your family then it is the best arrangement!<br><br>
kris<br>
owen, 16 months<br>
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This is the exact sleeping situation we have now and we are all happy with it. Dh snores and grinds his teeth, ugh.
 

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Ya we also have the same snoring problem and my he is so hot natured he likes it cold and I like it warm. But I feel better about it knowing it is not just us.
 

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we did this for about a year with ds. we used to sleep in a full-sized bed that sagged in the middle, so it may as well been a single bed. dh didn't sleep well with the three of us in one bed, so he slept in another room. as ds got older, he also turned out to be quite a mover throughout the night, even standing up at times and walking to another part of the bed and laying down again, which started to affect my sleep. In the end, ds suddenly starting sleeping for at least 10 hours straight, so we moved him into his own bed and dh joined me in our bed again. we'll see what happens when baby #2 is born in a couple of weeks...
 

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I co sleep with our three year old and am due in May with another one who will sleep with us also. DH sleeps in another room. Only because of his snoring though. We have a king size bed and he can sleep through anything so that isn't an issue. I'd like for us all to be able to sleep together, but I just cannot stand the snoring! It works for us. I mean, you don't get to do that much cuddling anyway with a three year old in the middle of things!
 

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We do the same thing here... we only have a full size bed and it has never been big enough to have a baby in with us. DS's room used to be a guest room so we kept the full size bed in there (thank goodness we decided to do that!). So we start off the night with DS in his crib, and when he is no longer willing to sleep in it, one of us goes in and sleeps in the bed in his room with him. It has been a LONG time since DH and I have spent full nights in our bed together from night til morning! He is a really light sleeper though, and he would never get enough sleep for work and honestly, sometimes I need a night, or part of a night by myself too. So even though we play musical beds, it is working for us.
 

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I started sleeping apart from my dh when I was about 4 months pregnant. He is a loud snorer and when I started waking frequently in the night while pregnant, I just couldn't get back to sleep. When ds came along, it seemed like it didn't make sense for both of us to have to wake up 8 times per night, so ds and I sleep in my queen bed and dh sleeps in the nursery in a twin. It works for us, except that I want to try ds in his crib in the nursery, but then I would have to sleep with the snorer!!! So, I'm keeping ds with me and dh in the nursery until one day when he gets his snoring under control.
 

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Right now,I sleep in the master bedroom with my youngest ds,16 months,who is still nursing. DH sleeps in one of the extra bedrooms with ds1,who is almost 3. It's the only way we can do it till we get a king size bed,even then,though,i don't think a bigger bed will matter,lol.<br>
We all have our own "things",like I have to have room to sleep on my stomach with my leg all stretched out,ds1 moves alot and sleeps horizontally,ds2 rolls back and forth alot,and DH radiates body heat like you wouldn't believe and snores.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> So more than likely we will keep doing it like this for another year or so,then possibly get a futon matress or something and transition ds1 to it next to our bed in the big bedroom.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/nut.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="nut"><br>
It's kinda different,but it works for us! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up"> So,I say do whatever helps everyone get the most sleep!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin">
 

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DD starts off in her own bed, in her own room, by herself (after nursing down to sleep) and when she wakes in the middle of the night, I join her.<br><br>
All three of us slept together until she was 8 months old. Both dh and dd are bed hogs and they kept fighting for space and nudging me out of the bed. After about a week of dh not sleeping because dd was hitting him, dd waking more because dh was moving a lot and me sleeping on a sliver of bed, we moved dd to her room with me joining her. It's worked well for 7 months so far, and I don't anticipate it ending any time soon (dd still nurses a lot at night!)
 

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Yep - same thing here. It just sorta "happened" and has been that way for 2 years now. It almost seems "normal" -- I would like to get back with DH at some point, but it just doesn't seem feasible now that I"m expecting #2 in June....
 

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We never ever thought dp would end up sleeping in another room. I couldn't imagine not snuggling up with him and ds. BUT...then he got a night shift job which lasted 7 months <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">: and we ended up so used to having a bed/room to ourselves that if dp even tries to sleep with us it wakes ds up and we all end up uncomfortable. Dp also doesn't like getting a "wake up call" from ds at 7am either so having separate beds is a good thing for us as much as we never imagined it being that way.<br><br>
I end up falling asleep with dp a lot so I end up running down the hall to ds' room at 3am half awake a lot. Our friends think we're crazy, we can't possibly be having sex with a set up like that- I just tell them we must be more creative than they are. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 
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