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Perhaps you kind mama's can give me some tips. DS has this new thing where he shrieks at the top of his voice. Really loud and very high pitched.<br><br>
It doesn't bother me so much, I personally find it a bit funny because he makes this really funny face when he does it. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> But my DH is getting really fed up with it and starting to be kind of snippy at DS when he does it. DH says it hurts his ears. So he will raise his voice at DS and tell him to stop screaming. "JAMES DO NOT SCREAM! IT HURTS MY EARS!!" <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">: Then I get mad at DH for yelling at DS and DH gets mad at me for telling him how to parent (I really try not to, but I don't think it's appropriate for DH to correct DS for shrieking, it's a new thing, he'll stop eventully).<br><br>
I know this is just a phase and it'll pass, but is there anything I can do to help it pass more quickly, or at least any ideas on what I can do for DH so he stops being such a butt about it? Thanks Mamas!!
 

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ahh yes, the "pterodactyl" phase....<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br>
I think the best advice I read here when DS went through this was to NOT match the intensity of your child, but go in the completely OPPOSITE direction. So when DS would get really screechy, I would get down to his eye level, really close, and whisper to him (usually "Please use your quiet voice inside..." and then just ramble about something else to keep his attention)...he'd be so intent on hearing what I had to say and surprised by the quietness of my voice that he would stop shrieking to hear what I was whispering and usually start giggling. Didn't work every time, but it worked enough and long enough to get us through it with him...<br><br>
...and thanks for reminding me, cause he's started to get kind of loud again on occasion, and I forgot about this myself until I just read your post and the lightbulb switched back on...only he's not shrieking now (he's 2), it's words and songs.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink"> I'll have to go back to whispering.<br><br>
Good luck!
 

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Ds#1 went through this. Dh was just like yours trying to raise his voice to be heard over it and telling him to stop. I was kinda like you...it didn't bother me too much and I figured it would pass. When he screamed I went to him to make sure nothing was wrong - he wasn't hurt, wasn't upset, and more often than not he was just doing it, well, because he could I guess. When there wasn't a reason I'd just carry on with what I had been doing.<br><br>
Then, a funny thing happened. After a couple of weeks ds would never, never scream when it was just me and him. But when dh was home, or when we were out with him he would scream and scream! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> Sorry, I know I shouldn't be <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> about it, but it is kinda funny. He did eventually stop, but only after dh was at his wits end and asked why in the heck he didn't scream for me!
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> DS does tend to shriek more with DH than with me. Usually it's when we are dressing him or changing his diaper (he hates that!) and I guess DH just gets frustrated because not only is DS fighting getting his diaper change (which makes diaper changes a billion times more dificult that they need to be) but he's shrieking at the top of his voice 'hurting DH's ears' For me he usually just shrieks for the sake of shrieking...just to make noise I guess.<br><br>
I'll have to pass on the whisper idea to DH. I'm getting tired of fighting with DH over him hollering at DS.
 

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Every single child I know went through that stage, and every single child I know outgrew it regardless of how their parents dealt with it -- some ignored it, some yelled back, and some used harsher methods. But no matter what, the child just eventually didn't do it anymore.<br><br>
I think it's just a part of learning to use your voice. Just like when you first learn to feed yourself, the food gets all over, when you're learning to use your voice, the noise gets all over!<br><br>
I'd just remind your dh that it's age-appropriate, it's temporary, and it's not worth getting into a power struggle over, since it'll end on it's own eventually.<br><br>
--Olive
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br>
Kiddo was at this stage and still does it sometimes. I've done the "whisper" thing too, and she has to hush up to hear me. Eventually she forgets to screech..<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
Usually though she does it to get my attention. "Hey feed me faster!" <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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My son does the same thing, it was so cute when he first did it but then it was just loud. He is 1.5 now and has slowed down a bit but will scream to let us know he is done in his high chair. We would just tell him not to scream and get him intrested in somthing else. It will pass.
 

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BTDT and am back with dd3. It's a loud couple of months. The more you feed it, the longer it will last. Distract, whisper, tell him we don't yell in the house, go outside and yell, buy your dh some ear protection...<br><br>
Jesse
 
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