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I know I'm not alone, but I am so frustrated. We get an OCCASIONAL 4 hour stretch at the beginning of the night, but after that DS is STILL up at least every 2 hours, often every hour. I really don't want to have to nightwean him, but I'm afraid I may have to. Will he eventually do the 4 hour stretches (that would be heaven) on his own without being nightweaned? Or am I stuck with this?
 

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I wish I could help, but I am going through the exact same thing with my one year old. I also came here to see what advice would be given. Good luck, and you certainly are not alone.
 

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honestly...<br>
i nightweaned about 6 weeks ago. it took about a week of daddy getting up with her every two hours... but that was an umprovement from when she was getting up every half hour when she was nursing and sleeping with us.<br>
now we get afew all nights a week and usually 1 to 3 wakings a night where daddy is able to calm her. every once in a while she still needs me or milk.<br>
good luck
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">honestly...<br>
i nightweaned about 6 weeks ago. it took about a week of daddy getting up with her every two hours... but that was an umprovement from when she was getting up every half hour when she was nursing and sleeping with us.<br>
now we get afew all nights a week and usually 1 to 3 wakings a night where daddy is able to calm her. every once in a while she still needs me or milk.<br>
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Did he (bottle) feed her each time, or how did he soothe her? Quinn would be fine if DH gave him a bottle, but I don't think that would help except for that night.
 

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I'm at a loss, too. I decided to nightwean in order to get some sleep. Surprisingly DS allowed me (only me, not DH) to comfort him back to sleep without nursing. The kicker is that now he wakes even more. It has been over a week of him doing 8 hr stretches of not-nursing, but he is still waking every hour or two and needing to be parented back to sleep. He is never upset, just awake and needing me to soothe him back to sleep. Even for naps in the daytime! I thought the nightweaning would make him sleep better, but it hasn't happened. ???
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I know I'm not alone, but I am so frustrated. We get an OCCASIONAL 4 hour stretch at the beginning of the night, but after that DS is STILL up at least every 2 hours, often every hour. I really don't want to have to nightwean him, but I'm afraid I may have to. Will he eventually do the 4 hour stretches (that would be heaven) on his own without being nightweaned? Or am I stuck with this?</div>
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hey! is his sleep WORSE, or just the same as before? DD has gone in and out of some terrible sleep since turning 1. i think it mostly has to do with teeth. she has one molar and her canines are trying to come in. but in between rough nights, we have an easy night here and there. so i haven't considered nightweaning because in our case i really don't think it would help anything.<br><br>
is his sleep pretty much consistently this way? if so, and if you can't take it, i would maybe try the nightweaning. you'll know pretty quickly if he (and you!) can do it. good luck!
 

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Same problem here...at my wit's end...sick of feeling punchy every day. DS seems to be nursing now more than ever AND eating like a tank. Eager to hear of advice/info offered. Hang in there and good luck.
 

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We just went through this. I offered DD a sippy cup of water every other waking and eventually she stopped waking for milk, or at all, at those every hour intervals. She tends to go to sleep at about 8pm and sleep until 6am with one waking at 1am now (and I eventually decided that the best sanity for everyone was night-weaning so even at 1am I generally just go in and pat on the back until she goes back to sleep, as long as I am touching her she doesn't cry). The water was my (fairly AP) mother's suggestion. I'm glad it worked for us or I'd be totally bonkers!<br><br>
It seemed to me like DD was waking more from habit than from need. If I think she is waking from some sort of need (teeth hurting, hungry, thirsty, gassy, etc) then I do my best to be compassionate and deal with those needs, but breaking the "habit" of waking up was the key. Imagine if you were to get up three nights in a row to go pee at 3am. The fourth night you would more than likely be up at 3am again, give or take 20 minutes, to pee even if you don't really have to. You have trained your body to need to be up at that time and you wake out of habit. Break the habit, the child will sleep longer. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up">
 

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We're going through it, too. I chalk it up to all the milestones/independence learning/teeth that are going on lately. Sucks, though. I find often when he wakes, he's willing to let me parent him back to sleep, say, every other time, instead of nursing. So, like instead of whipping out a boob, I'll cuddle him or rub his tummy or pat him (he sleeps with us). Sometimes I do nothing and he fusses for a min or so, changes position and goes back to sleep. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/shrug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="shrug">
 

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My dd is almost 16 months and wakes up to nurse all the time too. I have a friend whose ds stopped nursing at 10 months (long story), but he still wakes up at night and he's 18 months.<br><br>
So, even if you night wean, your end result may not be uninterrupted sleep. I think some kids just wake more than others, regardless of weather they nurse or do not nurse.
 

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I waited until 22 mos to nightwean. I don't think I'll wait that long the next time. Maybe 18 mos. I did cut down his waking at a year by making him lie through a song before I nursed him. Then I'd nurse him if he was still crying/rooting. It really helped. Surprisingly.
 

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12/13 months is a hard time for sleep for most kids. Lots of trouble falling asleep, lying in bed awake in the middle of the night, increased nightwaking. You might also find increased nursing during the day. It's a normal developmental thing, plus a lot of them are getting ready to walk. I'd wait to see if it goes away in a month or two before considering nightweaning. Hang in there!
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">12/13 months is a hard time for sleep for most kids. Lots of trouble falling asleep, lying in bed awake in the middle of the night, increased nightwaking. You might also find increased nursing during the day. It's a normal developmental thing, plus a lot of them are getting ready to walk. I'd wait to see if it goes away in a month or two before considering nightweaning. Hang in there!</div>
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I get the impression this is not a new thing for the OP.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Did he (bottle) feed her each time, or how did he soothe her? Quinn would be fine if DH gave him a bottle, but I don't think that would help except for that night.</div>
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nope. she has never taken a bottle.<br>
If he wa able to parent her back to sleep fairly easily, then we knew it wasn't the milk she needed.<br><br>
though i should not be giving advice.... we went camping last night and she was up at least hourly to nurse.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/yikes2.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="yikes">:
 

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mine does the same thing, up so much at night. But even if I parent her back to sleep instead of nursing, she'll still wake up just as much. I don't know that nightweaning would do much good.
 

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Hey, I just wanted to check back in. DS has never been a good sleeper, but he has a molar that just poked through halfway, and he's started walking. So, I'm going to hold off on changing anything right now. I think the molars are really bugging him and his "nigh nigh nigh" <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love"> is the only thing that really comforts him. Luckily I'm only teaching online this summer and can sleep during the day somewhat. Thanks for all of the tips mamas!
 
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