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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> I feel so terrible. I left dd in high chair unsupervised while I ran to the basement to do laundry. Our high chair was a hand me down and doesn't have any harness in it. I usually depend on the tray to keep her in (usually this works). For some reason I didn't have it on the tightest setting so there was more space for her to turn and stand. I heard the loud thud and my heart was broken. At first her arms seemed very weak, but after a few minutes she began to behave normally-playing, walking, smiling and laughing. She seemed to be fine and I didn't notice any bumps or bruises. After a while I noticed her right cheek was more reddened and now lightly bruised. I also noticed the top front of her head seemed a little swollen and reddened like she probably landed on the top front of her head (right in front of the little hole where her skull hasn't fully closed yet). It happened at about 5:40 pm and she went to bed at about 9:30. She didn't have a good night's sleep. She woke frequently and was fussy. I couldn't tell if it was from the fall, or a new cold she has, or from teething (she'll be 1 on Thursday and doesn't have any teeth yet). Eventually she slept for a few hours early in the morning. She seems to be doing well today. I can't decide if I should call the dr.<br><br>
I was so anxious last night. I bawled my head off. I was scared because I didn't know if she could have brain damage. I felt like such a failure as a mom. Like maybe I am not capable of doing the single mom thing. I have two dd's-my oldest is 2. I am so stressed out. My oldest dd is going to have open heart surgery in 1.5 months and I think that is weighing heavily on my mind (she was born with a heart defect and the repair involves 3 surgeries. She's had two so this will be the last one). I think I am just generally worn out. I also am a sahm/wahm. I provide day care 5 days a week for a 15 month old girl. Sometimes I feel like maybe my kids would be better off going to day care while I worked outside of the home.<br>
Anyway, thanks for letting me vent.
 

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First of all, she does sound ok. It is normal to feel guilty but try not to let it eat at you. So with head injuries if there was a concussion she would be listless, pupils won't dilate if you alternate light and dark, vomiting...if you see any of those symptoms get her to the ER. Never let them fall asleep right after an injury, keep them awake and pay attention to above symptoms. She sounds ok, but probably is sore and bruised. If you use homeopathics i would treat her with Arnica. Hugs to you mama.
 

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I agree, it sounds like she's ok. I remember this happening to me with my first child, over 13 years ago. If you don't see any of those signs the other mom posted, she's probably ok. You're doing fine. Things happen. Even when you prepare for everything, things still happen. Take a deep breath and give yourself a break.
 

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if it makes you feel better all of my kids fell on their head. a lot. especially the middle one. she went down a flight of stairs. I slipped on ice and she went flying out of my arms and landed on her forehead. she took a face dive off the bed. . .several times once breaking her collr bone. she did a swan dive out of a grocery cart (a sound I will never forget). and that was all in the first 14-18 months. we did decide not to have any more kids after her <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> turns out i was already pregnant. its a miricle they made it out of infancy alive.<br><br>
these things happen. and they hppen to good parents.
 

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I agree with what the others said if she is doing good, than she is probably fine. Don't beat yourself up about it, even under constant supervison you baby is going to get hurt. Just yesterday my son was walking with me to the kitchen, and then he decided to run ahead of me and fell and smacked his head on the tile floor, so he now has a big huge goose egg on his forehead as well as scraped up knees from falling when we were walking to the store. No matter how much you try to protect them they always manage to hurt themselves.
 

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My dd flipped her highchair twice before I came to the realization that it need to go in the garbage. Same with her crib. So if you can get rid of it now you'll be one up on me.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink">
 
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