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Here's an issue I haven't worked out. 19 weeks into my pregnancy I found out I was having twins. Before then I had shopped around for different hospitals or birth centers. But twins riskes you out of BCs and MWs in my area. In fact, it nearly guarantees a c/s. The books say twins have a c/s rate of 50%, but I think that's out of date. In my area the rate is 80%, according to one L/D nurse and a straw poll of my twin club.
Anyway, I found my way to a wonderful home birth. I fought off naysayers and ditched my OBs. My experience won over most of my family, who now think everyone should have a homebirth.
But what lingers and still makes me mad, is how much I had to fight to have a natural birth. I had to tell a lot of smart people (drs and friends) they were wrong. I feel like I did so to ransom my body, pay out of pocket to keep from being cut open unnecessarily. I feel like the c/s the OBs would have forced on me was medical rape. Which I avoided by lots of research, money and a supportive DH.
I'm still furious about the mis-information the OBs threw my way, kindly and not so kindly.
I know I should get over it and move on. Everything turned out well and I post wherever I can to spread the word and my experience. What more can I do. Will time lessen my anger?
Anyway, I found my way to a wonderful home birth. I fought off naysayers and ditched my OBs. My experience won over most of my family, who now think everyone should have a homebirth.
But what lingers and still makes me mad, is how much I had to fight to have a natural birth. I had to tell a lot of smart people (drs and friends) they were wrong. I feel like I did so to ransom my body, pay out of pocket to keep from being cut open unnecessarily. I feel like the c/s the OBs would have forced on me was medical rape. Which I avoided by lots of research, money and a supportive DH.
I'm still furious about the mis-information the OBs threw my way, kindly and not so kindly.
I know I should get over it and move on. Everything turned out well and I post wherever I can to spread the word and my experience. What more can I do. Will time lessen my anger?