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Would you let your 11 year old child go on a snow ski trip with another family to a destination 12 hours away by car?<br><br>
It is not an issue of trust, because I know this family well and she spends time with them often. She has been to sleep away camp before for a week, so being away from us isn't the issue either.<br><br>
I'm paranoid about her traveling such a long distance and the risk involved in skiing. I worry about her being injured and us being so far away. Am I letting my obsessive-compulsvie tendencies get the best of me? I also wonder at what age I will feel ok about her doing something like this. The risks are the same whether she is 15 or 11.
 

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It would depend on a few things for me. Does your dd ski? Well? How many other kids will be going vs the number of adults?
 

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Just remember that if you know these people real well and trust them, you know they will most likely watch her and treat her like their own dd. When I watch my friends children, I am actually MORE careful with them because I don't "know" them as well as my own children and don't know of their reactions, personalities, etc as much.<br><br>
Talk to her before and let her know your rules and of course clear those with the parents she'll be going with. Have her call you every 6-8 hours, just for your own peace of mind.<br><br>
I think she'd be fine and probably have a blast.
 

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I went skiing with my best friend's family at that age. I had been skiing many times with my own family and my parents trusted the other parents. It depends on your comfort level with the situation though, as my parents let me do many other things that I personally wouldn't feel comfortable with as a parent.
 

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I think it really depends on her ability and her friends'. Are they all at the same level? Are the parents the kind that will stay with her the entire time or are they going to let the kids go off together to do some runs alone? My only concern would be if they zip down in front of her or her in front of them.
 

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I would. My closest friend at that age was an only and from about 8 years old and on I went on vacation with her family, even leaving the country. Maybe because that's part of my past I'd let DS go skiing away from home with a friend and his/her family. I loved those trips!
 

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We have taken a ski trip as a family once per year for the past three years. She skis well(comfortable on Colorado blue slopes and sometimes ventures onto black). She is going with a couple and their two kids(one of which is one of her best friends), and the kids have never skiied.<br><br>
I think I am a bit hyper-sensitiive because I have been plowed over on the slopes before and I am always on guard when skiing with kids. They wear helmets and I am usually right behind them.<br><br>
Thanks for your comments, I'm pretty much hearing here what my friends have been telling me as well.
 

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I would let her go. I was skiing with friends away from parents at age 10 and my mom didn't have any issues with it (although, I was a pretty advanced skier at that age).<br><br>
I don't have a problem when my 9 year old goes with neighbors of ours if DH and I can't. (That is only 2 hours away though).<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 

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Yes!<br><br>
I went to Ohio (12 hrs. away) every summer for a couple weeks between the ages of 10 to 15. Being away from home at that age can be such a memorable adventure!
 

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I would let her go. Something is just as likely to happen if you are there. What I would do is make sure you have a notarized document (I know there is a specific name for them, just blanking on it) giving the friend's parents to obtain medical treatment for your child if needed. Also make sure you send an copy of your insurance card (if applicable). It might not matter in an emergency, but for minor injuries it might help. Just a thought.
 

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For me personally, probably not. I would see it the same as a flight 12-hours away. All the what-ifs.<br><br>
I tell you, I'm going to be a wreck one day when dd goes to college...<br><br>
But I would follow your own gut.
 

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I would say yes.
 

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Yes, in a heart beat.<br><br>
But then I will let my nine year old daughter go 10 hours away this summer to a good, lifelong friend of a super close friend's (yes I have met her and like her a lot) to work on her ranch during foaling season. She will be gone for 11 days, she will have a cell phone, and she is to call me.<br><br>
But to add, my daughter is horse crazy, a hunter jumper and the woman who she is going to has a national reputation as a therapy rider instructor. With all the back ground checks and what not, I am not worried about her safety so much as her fatigue and home sickness.
 
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