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I need encouragement mamas. My 12 mo old dd is toying with a strike.<br><br>
Background: Thursday night she started with a high fever. We gave tylenol when it got above 103 and she was miserable. Other than that she did ok. We heard a bit of congestion in her nasal passages and chest, which the dr confirmed on sat. she said that it would probably get worse with such a high fever, but it didn't (yay breastmilk).<br><br>
On sunday the fever broke, and she was definitely nursing less, refusing some sessions during the day. i pumped to maintain supply. she didn't want ebm in a sippy when offered. today she is MUCH better, no fever, acting normal, but after nursing at 7:30 when she woke up she has REFUSED. Ack!<br><br>
I just want my little nursling back. I've tried all the tricks i can think of. even when she is asleep. she sucks on her paci just fine - no visible sores in her mouth.<br><br>
she is drinking water and did take a few ounces in her sippy, but not much.<br><br>
PLEASE reassure me that this will get better as she gets better and her appetite increases. I'm so freaked out.
 

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well i just got her to latch. i was putting her down for a nap, and she would root with her paci in, but when I took it out, she would just latch and fuss. so once she fell asleep and spit the paci out, I put my boob in. she didn't really eat much - maybe she just isn't that hungry right now b/c she is sick?? oh well.
 

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Yep, I was just going to recommend taking away the paci. Some babies wean from the breast early because they have another way to meet their suckling needs (i.e. paci, bottle). I would continue expressing or pumping like you're doing to keep up your supply. It sounds like she still has a need to suckle so, as long as she's not able to do that with only the paci, she'll come back to the breast.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1"> Good luck.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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My 21mos old doesn't nurse when she has a fever. It started at about 11mos. She will refuse to eat for up to 12hrs. I don't have a pump, so it gets quite painful. It's strange b/c most babies will not eat anything <b>but</b> b-milk when they have a fever/don't feel well.<br><br>
This is going to sound mean, but I don't let her have anything else when she does this. I will give her a sip of water if she asks, but not a cup or food. She's been off the paci since 6 mos or so. (Don't get me wrong, I don't leave her side, and I'm regularly trying to get her to latch all day.) I want her to realize she has to nurse to quench her thirst and appetite. It was tough sometimes, but she has come back everytime. My breasts are "empty" again in 2 feedings. I never have supply issues doing it that way, and she has been just fine hydration-wise. I would, of course, re-think this approach if it got much past the 12hrs.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
I have relaxed now that she is over 18 mos. I let her have some other food or water when she has a fever and won't nurse, b/c I don't fear she will wean anymore. She is very concious of her "milkies" now and won't go w/out them for long.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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so do you suggest actually REMOVING the paci totally right now? when I got her to nurse today at 2:30 and at bedtime at 7, it was when she fell asleep and I took out the paci and gave her my breast.<br><br>
I am totally willing to take it away if need be, she tends to look for the paci for comfort and me for comfort AND food. but until now, we've never had an issue and she generally (like 99% of the time) prefers me over a sippy.<br><br>
do you also think I should NOT give ebm in the sippy? she didn't really take much from it, maybe 6 oz total today. she isn't a huge solids eater anyway so no need to really limit that.<br><br>
another complication - tomorrow I have to work (she goes with me to daycare onsite) and I nurse on demand. should i bring ebm for a sippy at work? i mean, i can't run down there every time she might be hungry. i could take the day off and will do so if need be....i mean, our nursing relationship is more impt than work, kwim?
 

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I am totally willing to take it away if need be, she tends to look for the paci for comfort and me for comfort AND food. but until now, we've never had an issue and she generally (like 99% of the time) prefers me over a sippy.<br><br>
do you also think I should NOT give ebm in the sippy? she didn't really take much from it, maybe 6 oz total today. she isn't a huge solids eater anyway so no need to really limit that.<br><br>
another complication - tomorrow I have to work (she goes with me to daycare onsite) and I nurse on demand. should i bring ebm for a sippy at work? i mean, i can't run down there every time she might be hungry. i could take the day off and will do so if need be....i mean, our nursing relationship is more impt than work, kwim?</div>
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I don't want to pretend to know what's best for you two. I just followed my gut that told me, if she got her drink or food from somewhere else, she wouldn't NEED to get it from me.<br>
This probably stems from what happened w/ my 2nd DD. My 2nd DD weaned cold turkey when I had thrush and gave her a bottle for 1-2 feedings to give my nipples a break. She had been completely off the paci by then and was getting her BM 100% from me prior to the bottles. In hindsight, I should have stopped the bottles when she first started refusing and tried to get her back to breast. Hindsight is 20/20.<br>
I was much more protective of my nursing relationship w/ my current nursling. I didn't want to make it easy for her to quit.<br>
I would say, follow your instincts, but watch her closely. HTH<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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All I can tell you is I know <i>a lot</i> of babies who have exchanged the breast for a bottle or a paci. Most mothers who will say their baby self weaned don't realize that they didn't wean from suckling, they just switched suckling devices. The very active babies are more likely to do this. So IMO, if you want the baby to breastfeed, yes remove the paci. HTH <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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well, she's back to normal today! i stopped freaking about her not eating and paid attention, and it was her appetite that seemed off. so I stopped offering the ebm in a sippy, offered water, and today she was fine. she NEVEr took a bottle and just started liking a sippy.<br><br>
after this scare it might be time to wean from the paci. who knows. I'm just so glad she is back to normal! I'm inclined to say this was illness/fever related vs a strike b/c she would still nurse several times a day. either way, thanks mamas!
 

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Awww, so glad to hear she's feeling better!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love">
 

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Great news!!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 
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