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Hi dear mums,

I have a question which might be a common problem for many mums who breastfeed beyond infancy.

In short: my son, 13 months, is used to always falling asleep at the breast, and he should be starting day care at 20 months.

Even worse, he is used to sleeping with me in the same bed (co-sleeping) and to only fall asleep with me, both for daily naps and in the evening. Often I even sleep with him in some of the naps as well, so he is a bit spoilt :p.

At night he still wakes a few times to nurse, which according to my husband it's "not normal" because he should be sleeping through the night. Even though I don't see it as abnormal, I do wonder if he gets enough solids, because if he doesn't eat enough for dinner then he wakes up much more in the night. And also in the morning he is often not so hungry to have breakfast.

Because of the nightly wakings I still have to go to sleep early to make sure I sleep enough, and the rest of my life is kind of postponed. I don't care to postpone my social life for a while, I know it's temporary. But for my job I have been working from home all this time, and it's time I start showing up, because I need to work with my colleagues. But since he currently always needs me to be there to go to sleep, I can't leave for a full day.

What is your experience on this? How do you gently help him to learn to fall sleep with other people, in his own bed? I have some months, but I'm getting uncomfortable because this doesn't change...

Thanks for sharing your experience!
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I wouldn't be too concerned. The difference between 13 months and 20 months is *huge*. Both my girls co-sleep and fed/feed to sleep all the time. I started doing some casual shifts at around 20mo with each of them and they were fine. I didn't express. They just had water and solids while I was gone.

Usually they would have a sleep but, if they didn't, we just had an early night that night.

Your LO sounds completely normal to me. I would not try to change anything in anticipation of something so far in the future :)

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Thanks katelove! I will at least try to get him to like his cot, because at day care he has to sleep in a cot, no one will co-sleep with him :)

But reading what you say, I think it would be good if we "practice" by leaving him with dad for longer periods of time.

Thanks again for your advice!
 

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Thanks katelove! I will at least try to get him to like his cot, because at day care he has to sleep in a cot, no one will co-sleep with him :)

But reading what you say, I think it would be good if we "practice" by leaving him with dad for longer periods of time.

Thanks again for your advice!
Sounds similar... I hope he grows up and gets used to being with other people these months, because right now, he is even crying hysterically if I "give him" to dad to take him to sleep instead of me. We didn't try very long because I just can't stand the crying and I'm there anyway, so I keep doing the same. Always mum taking him to bed...

But we'll see what these months bring, how he changes... :smile:

Thanks for sharing your experience!
 

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I thought I'd post an update on this, for other mums who might be having the same concerns.

I'm amazed how well it's going. I started leaving for work twice a week, while dad stays with my son. He is doing very well, they somehow manage to do the daily nap perfectly, so I am more confident that it will work when he goes to day care.

Sometimes you have to try things and you can be surprised (positively) .
 
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