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Well.. 9 weeks until he turns 13, and still all there <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> Sighs..<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/BFPChart2.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Chart">: <-- Thats my blood pressure <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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<div>Originally Posted by <strong>Minky</strong></div>
<div style="font-style:italic;">Why is your blood pressure so high?<br>
Did u tell him he could hav the decision for himself at 13?</div>
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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> No, Minky, that's not it at all. Being the parent of a teenager can be a headache-inducing experience! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin"> Teens are very emotional and prone to taking out their frustrations on their parents. Furthermore, there are always the worries: Will they drink? Use drugs? Have unsafe sex? Will they get into college? Will they make the same mistakes that I did? You spend 13 years loving and taking care of them, but then you have to start letting them go and making their way in the world. And that's scary for both them and you!<br><br>
To the OP: if you do your job right, at the end of it you will have a new adult friend, one who will want to hang out with you and talk to you--your son. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love">
 

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All I can say is that 2 months ago, my son and I was nowhere near as close as we are now. He has had an interesting year, and I dont thin k this coming year is going to be much easier on him.<br><br>
Bloodpressure -- stress, everything. But I have to say I am happy.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">All I can say is that 2 months ago, my son and I was nowhere near as close as we are now. He has had an interesting year, and I dont thin k this coming year is going to be much easier on him.<br><br>
Bloodpressure -- stress, everything. But I have to say I am happy.</div>
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Hey, I hope I still feel the same way when my kids are teenagers. I think about the future over here and it is scarry at times...not knowing what to expect. But then I think about now, how exciting life is....sure I might have a dishes in the sink and several loads of laundry to do, but WOW, I love my life. Chaotic at times, sure...but the love in this home is so wonderful. The kids are great and I feel so happy to be where I am knowing that I have done the best I can for my family. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
I keep on hoping and praying that I am setting them up for success...I want them to be able to think for themselves and always be able to step back and analyze what they are doing with their lives. I want them to be able to contribute to society in a meaningful way. Ha, do I ask too much?<br><br>
I hope that their mom being an intactavist (among other things) will rub off on them. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> It makes me wonder if my girls are going to start asking about intact status when they start to date <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngtongue.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Stick Out Tongue"> yikes!<br><br>
Just my inner ramblings <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I hope that their mom being an intactavist (among other things) will rub off on them. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> It makes me wonder if my girls are going to start asking about intact status when they start to date <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngtongue.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Stick Out Tongue"> yikes!<br><br>
Just my inner ramblings <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"></div>
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Call it selfish if you wish, but I hope that Dan takes my approach to winning a battle, and that is listening to both sides of the story and trying to find out what is the best for all involved and trying to work a solution for everyone. My DH thinks that everything is his choice and that he must have the final word. I silently hope that as Dan turns into a teenager and amidst eventual puberty that they are able to continue smiling, and hugging each other. They are both hard-headed and stubborn men, even if one of them is a bit shorter than the other <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin"> When I see Dan curled up in my DH's lap watching a movie I always inwardly smile and wish that some other kids his age would have that type of relationship with their fathers.<br><br>
If nothing else, Dan's foreskin issues over the past year has brought us all, eventually closer and allowed us all to break down some of the barriers from communicating with one another, as for a while I honestly was starting to feel like the broken spoke, that was being left behind.<br><br>
Dan sent me an email last night, to which he said ...<br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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That is an inspiration for the original posting, that was what -- amid what was supposed to be a day of finishing taxes for 2 businesses, 3 salaried incomes, and investments -- made this day a smile that just made everything better, that just made everything seem to fit in its place, that and listening to a piece of piano music my husband recorded last night that I find just wonderful.<br><br>
Even tho the stress of the entire situation made <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/BFPChart2.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Chart">: that, I still think that it was worth it.<br><br>
I think having a son of my own, watching him grow, struggles included, is the best part of life. Its what God intended for people to experience as the ultimate in being happy. The ultimate way for us to show how much we are a part of these young peoples lives. The ultimate way for us to make a change in the world of tomorrow.<br><br>
NOW it is ME who is the rambler... Sorry..
 
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