Maybe not homelessness in and of itself, but a proven inability to maintain a home, right? The fact that he is chronically homeless.Originally Posted by aricha
It is possible that CPS will not consider homelessness a reason to take custody away from a parent. Because of my job, I work fairly closely with our state's version of CPS, and have heard specifically that they don't consider homelessness (on its own) a reason to remove children from parents' custody. They may not, in fact, consider alleged (or even proven) drug use by a household member to be reason to remove children. I know it seems crazy, but it could be the case where you are that they don't consider either (or even both in combination) to constitute abuse, neglect, or substantial risk of harm. I'm NOT saying this is my personal opinion, I'm saying it might not be enough cause for CPS to get a judge to remove children from dad's custody.
Originally Posted by AtYourCervices
I'm concerned about sending the kids home after spring break when they actually have no "home" to go to.
I HAVE talked to my ex husband about having the kids live with me. He keeps changing the subject or giving an excuse as to why it's not the right time. Ultimately, his real reasoning is he wants to use the kids for hand outs. Last time he and I made a plan (verbal agreement) to move the kids in with me he went behind my back and had his girlfriend claim the kids on her taxes, getting several thousand dollars in taxes that was supposed to go towards a down payment on a larger home for the kids to move back in with me. Even though my ex husband and I had agreed that I was to claim the kids on taxes that year (because I did have quite a lot of visitation at that time and he wasn't working, and our verbal agreement was switch claiming the kids on taxes each year), he went behind my back and had his (now ex) girlfriend claim them so she could buy a big screen TV. Seriously. I considered turning them in, but I decided to avoid drama. I've been biding my time, got a bigger home, and have wanted to do everything the legal, right way.
Until this went down my husband and I were planning on having the kids move in with us this summer (after the school year was up). We just moved 800 miles away from the kids in October. I didn't make a stink before because my ex husband's now ex wasn't horrible. I could take my time, wait until the school year was up, wait until my daughter and her boyfriend broke up, etc. Now I just can't bare another month with them in that environment, with an ex prostitute drug addict as their female role model. Yes, I have personal issues with her, but really who wouldn't have a problem with that kind of person being their kids' potential future step mom?! In addition to all of this, my ex husband hasn't allowed me to talk to the kids in some time. Meanwhile, I have let him talk to our 10 y/o daughter several times a week, whenever he wants, and I have a webcam so he can "see" her.
Isn't this illegal? I don't know; I was under the impression that this would be considered being in contempt of custody orders--I'm assuming that you have the legal right to talk to your kids via your custody orders and him withholding contact is illegal. Document every single time he avoids your contact or won't let you talk to the kids.Originally Posted by AtYourCervices
He hasn't let me speak with the kids in awhile, and I'm really concerned. I think he's not letting the kids speak with me because he's afraid of what the kids will tell me about their living situation.