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We will break it up to 2 days, so more like 10 hours a day with stops. WE are going to see a dying relative (dh's grandfather who hasnt met dd) I am not looking forward to it<br><br>
DD is not great in the car<br><br>
Anyway I got the suggestion to buy a cheap dvd player and let her watch it.<br><br>
She obviously doesnt watch tv, its not even an issue at 1. We dont ahve a tv except in "dh's" room. When she has caught glimpses here and there at friends houses, waiting rooms etc. She is mezmorized by it! I am usre it would help her on the ride..<br><br>
I sort of feel like the benefits in this case outway the risks... WWYD?<br><br>
I will buy some new toys and try to avoid using it, but in emergency cases when we are 1 hour away from our destination and she's freaking out it may be really helpful.....
 

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I'm not involved with Waldorf at all, but I am very experienced in traveling. We've taken our kids by car across the country several times. For us, traveling is a different experience than regular life and the rules and expectations are totally different. We don't normally eat out in our everyday lives, or stay seated in the same place for 10 hours or watch movies. I would leave your guilt behind and recognize that traveling is something different from everyday life and that the portable DVD player is a tool that you can use to make her life more pleasant. Since she's only 1, I'd choose something like Baby Einsteins, which is mild and amusing to young toddlers.
 

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Veteran road trip with baby/toddler person here. First, I'd say that if you plan well trying to coincide driving with napping and accepting that the schedule may be a bit off -i.e. child falling asleep at 7pm and sleeping last two hours of trip then being awake at destination until 11pm - and plan some stops along the way to take a break then you will probably be fine without the movies. Can you arrange to drive some at night?<br><br>
Also you have to accept that someone will need to sit in the back with the child to entertain her much of the time. Books, stickers (at this age I just bought the $2 package of multi-colored dots from the office store, finger puppets, songs and rhymes, puzzles, picture cards to talk about, a small photo album of family faces, bubbles, lacing beads, etc. will all keep her engaged. I'm not a big Crayola person, but color wonder markers and finger paints are great for in the car. Also hit the thrift stores for some little hand toys for her to explore.<br><br>
All that being said, when we had to do a 31-hour each way in one week <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/nut.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="nut"> trip with our then 20 month old we did use a laptop to play a 20 minute children's lullabye video in the evening. We would stop for dinner and a break, then get ds in pj's and nurse. It was still too early for him to go to sleep but he was too frustrated from being in the car all day to get buckled in calmly again. The dvd was enough of a distraction to let us get back on the road and then when it was finished I was able to read and sing ds to sleep. We probably used the dvd for 2 1/2 of the 60+ hours on the road, but it was a good option for that time.<br><br>
We didn't buy a dvd player though, we were able to secure my laptop to the seat next to ds with a special computer bag that dh had. Not everyone would feel this is a safe solution, but we felt it was well secured and would not easily become a flying hazard in a crash.
 

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we took a dvd player with us for a 14 hour trip once and it actually seemed to add to the stress so we didn't use it. the moving picture in the moving car made even my stomach a little queasy. it was really annoying actually i wouldn't recommend it at all.<br><br>
i would strongly recommend a great kids cd that is familiar to your baby. if you don't have any one that she is very attached to try and single one out before you leave and sing with it and dance to it and get really familiar with it.<br><br>
we took music together class and the cd that goes with it is so familiar to everyone all i have to do is turn it on and the lo's are quite and soothed instantaneously. we ended up listening to this one cd almost the entire trip.
 

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We did a couple of cross-country drives with my DD at 13 months and again at 18 months. One of us sat in the back with her the whole time, except for nap time. Also, we used driving time for her meals (cheerios, dried seaweed snacks, pirate booty, and the like) and used our food stops for nursing and running around on the grass or in the fast-food playland. Cds did nothing for my daughter at that age, but she would stop crying if my DH and I sang. We sang at least twenty verses of Old-Mac-Donald every day. We bought some of the DK board books, especially the touch-and-feel ones; she was happy to look at those on her lap in the carseat. For the 18 month trip we also read longer, more difficult books out loud to her; the boredom of the trip helped her focus on the longer stories.<br><br>
By the time my son was 12 months, we'd given up and bought a DVD player for the car. It makes driving much less work for the parents. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink"> But if you are willing to spend the entire day in the car working hard to keep your DD entertained, you can do it without the DVD player.
 

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If it were me, I'd plan all the other fun distractions and snacks and stickers - but I'd surely have that dvd player tucked away for back up! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink"> FWIW, the Little Einstein farm animals and neighborhood animals seemed to me to be *way* better than some of the newer ones which were far more disney-ish with flashing lights and fast moving objects. I found the music ones were awful that way!
 

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Since she is only 1, I don't think stickers and crayons will work. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink"> My 1.5 year old throws everything down in the car, so it's pointless to even give her anything to play with. But she also still sits rear facing and can't see the DVD player (we have a Odyssey van with the DVD player). We are a Montessori family, not Waldorf, but I try not to let my kids watch a lot of TV. However, in the car they absolutely LOVE to watch movies. Here are the one's I keep stocked in the car:<br><br>
Schoolhouse Rock (it's a bit advanced for them, but they loooooooove it! Plus, I like the songs and it reminds me of my own childhood. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1"> ).<br><br>
Leap Frog Letter Factory and Leap Frog Word Factory (would be too advanced for your child).<br><br>
Baby Einstein (I think it's called Baby Noah?). Even my 3.5 year old loves the Baby Einstein video's and this one in particular shows animals of all sorts - ocean, jungle, arctic. I think it's a good one because it shows a lot of REAL animals amongst the puppets.<br><br>
You could also go to the library and check out some nature videos. I also think the library has a lot of Baby Einstein DVD's.<br><br>
I think the DVD is a good idea on a long trip.
 

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i forgot to say that one of the problems is that I get very car sick and dizzy, I have an inner ear disorder (whichi s why we cant fly). Soi have a very hardtime doing much except looking out the window and maybe handing dd a toy or singing while looking out the window.<br><br>
We also need to take DH's car which is a prius (to save on gas of course) and for some reason driving that car makes me dizzy, I dontknow if its the big screen in it or just the way it runs on and off. So I cant drive and let DH entertain DD either.....<br><br>
Ok so i guess new toys, maybe food int he car although I doubt DH/ clean freak will go for that one and lastly dvd player. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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If I were you and had those issues while driving then I would seriously consider driving at night. If you leave home at 4pm and spend a couple of hours on the road, then stop for a long dinner and break, then get back on the road at 8pm you can plan on a hotel at 1 or 2am. Does your dd still take two naps? If so get up and get breakfast, plan some local activity like a park, then drive for a couple of hours including her morning nap. Stop for lunch and another break, drive for a couple of hours surrounding her afternoon nap, stop for break and dinner, then drive the remainder the second evening. If you've logged a couple of hours at each naptime then you should only be 3-4 hours from your destination and arrive by midnight. I know this schedule goes against the grain with us adults who just want to get there and have the trip over with, but it may be the best solution in your case.<br><br>
I do not see a one year old being entertained by a dvd for hours upon end, especially if they are not used to watching tv. The novelty wears off pretty quickly for most non-media kids that I know who are under 5. I actually feel the opposite of pp's who have recommend the Baby Einstein series because they seem to be quite mind-numbing to me, just my opinion. I would suggest the Signing Times series which you can probably find at your library. The videos have music and lots of other little kids to watch.<br><br>
Snacks are going to be a must, so I would think that your dh is going to have to relax on this issue for the trip, maybe with assurances from you that it is not going to be a day to day habit but just a extraordinary measure for an extraordinary event.<br><br>
And IMHO, the large circle stickers from the office store and the chunky block crayons are great for one year olds and I know many who have survived long car and plane trips because of them. By 18 months my ds's favorite pastime on a long trip was opening bandaid wrappers, peeling the backings off, and sticking them onto his coloring pages. I think it all just depends upon the amount of supervision you are able to give, as you do need to watch if your child still puts things in her mouth a lot, and your tolerance for cleaning up the mess afterward.
 

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if your prone to motion sickness i would definitely stay away from the dvd! i'm the same way and it made me so sick just to see it out of the corner of my eye.<br><br>
how about giving her a box of tissues to just pull out. this works with my lo for long periods of time. i've read that attaching a bagel to some links and up over the upper handle of the car works great for some lo's. they can just chew on it or bat it around.<br><br>
working around naps is a great idea too. everyones going to get cranky, i don't think the dvd will really make it a whole lot better. just lots of brakes and snacks are a must, maybe stop at a zoo or <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> mc donalds playplace to give her a little action during the long day and lots of night driving and you'll make it.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up">
 

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we've done some road tripping a little and we don't do screens, but ds taught us some things that helped besides singing, special road trip food and other things that were mentioned. one was when i made wool pom-poms for the road trip. apparently i'm not very good at it because they were loose enough that ds *loved* pulling the individual yarns pieces out one by one and "decorating" the floor beneath his carseat, so if your kid is a "picker" like mine that may work. oh, darn it, i can't remember what else i was going to say...well one is talking about what we see and looking for more (big trucks, trains, clouds, etc), not very creative, but worked for us. hmm, sorry!!! i can't remember now what i was going to say.<br><br>
ok, i remember, ds started using scissors early early. he loved to just snip paper, again lots of little pieces on the floor.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">we've done some road tripping a little and we don't do screens, but ds taught us some things that helped besides singing, special road trip food and other things that were mentioned. one was when i made wool pom-poms for the road trip. apparently i'm not very good at it because they were loose enough that ds *loved* pulling the individual yarns pieces out one by one and "decorating" the floor beneath his carseat, so if your kid is a "picker" like mine that may work. oh, darn it, i can't remember what else i was going to say...well one is talking about what we see and looking for more (big trucks, trains, clouds, etc), not very creative, but worked for us. hmm, sorry!!! i can't remember now what i was going to say.<br><br>
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i really feel for you! i feel dizzy if not looking out the window too. the suggestions above are great (i LOVE the pom pom one) but i wouldn't do the scissors... you never know when you may have to brake suddenly or god forbid have an accident of some sort.. you don't want anything sharp in your baby's hand. just my opinion. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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*You* don't have to watch the DVDs, nor do you have to sit with your toddler the whole time (I never sat with my second child!). We did lots of long road trips when each of my children were small, and they were fine even when we didn't use the dvd player. I discourage its use because of the little one, too, but these things have their place. Especially since your trip is not a happy-go-lucky vacation, do whatever you need to do to have as easy a time as possible. We often drive at night as well, but dh is a night owl and can do so.<br><br>
Sesame Street Old School are good DVDs, too- just the old stuff, Jim Henson and Frank Oz and the people. Since your child is so young, she'll probably be entertained by lots of things, and the DK nature videos are nice to look at, too. Go to your library and get a bunch of things. You don't have to use them, and they might not work, but better to have options.<br><br>
Let go of the no food in the car thing. That's ridiculous. A road trip with or without kids trashes your car. It's cleanable. We take or buy plenty of food and eat while driving, if it's the kind of trip we just want to get over with.<br><br>
And if your child spends the entire car trip entranced by tv, it won't kill her, and you don't have to start watching Nickelodeon 24/7 when you get home. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink">
 
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