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Hi mamas, my DD is 14 months old and ever since she was born she has only been able to sleep while she is physically touching my body. Usually she nurses to sleep and then presses up real close with her leg and arm flopped across my body. For naps, for the night, whenever (with the exception of in the car).<br><br>
At night it is not a problem for me, since we co-sleep. She just comes to bed with me at 10 or 11 and then I get to sleep in with her in the morning <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up"> But napping is a time when I would really like to be able to get some stuff done. She nurses to sleep and is limp-limbed and very soudly sleeping, so I will gently sneak out and put my mama-smelling body pillow next to her. EVERY time she wakes up crying within 2 minutes, and will not be calmed back to sleep unless I get into bed with her. This will happen even if she has been sleeping for 3 hours or so in the night, and I get up to go to the bathroom. I feel so bad for my girl, I end up just taking every nap with her. Or reading a book in bed next to her. But how long will this last? Is there a reason why she feels so insecure sleeping?<br><br>
We have tried a sling (worked ok when she was small), swings (didn't work at all), hammock (ditto), white noise (helps some), and probably a lot more I can't think of right now.<br><br>
Thanks for any insight mamas. I just want to help my daughter feel peaceful and secure while she's sleeping. For now I guess that just means I will just keep on being lazy <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> I know in a few years I will be wishing for those peaceful naps with her!
 

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Maybe (at least part of the time) she is cold? Maybe a warm sleeper outfit and/or a warm microwaveable Bucky or something next to her would help? Can she sleep next to Daddy's warm body, or are you the "lucky one and only"?<br><br>
Sometimes I sense that my daughter feels the same way about me, cause at night she'll sometimes reach out and touch me and then fall asleep again. But, I have found I can usually sneak away for the first hour or so of her nap and the first hour or so of her night sleep. She has gotten used to waking up and not finding me around. Sometimes she's ok with it, sometimes she cries, but she will rarely go back to sleep on her own, with me and the boob being there. All I can suggest is that you keep trying to get her used to being away from you.<br><br>
Gotta go, babe is fussing!<br>
Alyssa<br>
Mom to Ravenna 5/05
 

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My 11 month old is the same way. I have noticed though if I put her in our bed she will sleep alone for about 20 minutes if I cover her with a soft snuggly blanket. It has to be this certain blanket I crocheted for my husband a few years ago I don't know why, she never sleeps with that blanket any other time. This is a very recent development for her as well.<br>
I really worry about it because she has to go into daycare in Jan and I worry how she will handle napping there. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/gloomy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Gloomy">: Maybe she will just stay awake all day and let me get to sleep before 4am <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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I almost hate to tell you this - but my daughter is almost 2 and we have the exact same situation. She has never slept alone for more than 10 or 15 minutes. I need her to nap so I just go with it, but I hear you - it would be great to get things done during nap times! Not to mention people think I'm crazy. A blanket does help us a bit too - it holds in the body heat or something after I move away - but she always does wake up though, it just extends the time it tkaes a bit. I know I should work on this more...but really I don't know what to do and still ensure she's getting her sleep.
 

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Thanks mamas, at least I know I'm not alone. People do think I'm crazy that I can't put her down to sleep by herself. I was talking to my mom about it and she said I did the exact ame thing as a baby. DD and I had so many HN issues in common!<br><br>
DD won't tolerate any blankets on her, she will immediately kick them off in her sleep. Ahh well, I guess I will just be patient. TY.
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/hug2.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Hug2"> I just wanted to chime in with some sympathy. Mine is 11 months and the exact same way, and I was apparently the same way as a baby too! It makes me think it's an inborn trait. (Maybe it means we're all very people-oriented?) I usually take naps with ds and bring the laptop (yay wireless internet) or a book. Sometimes I sneak away, but he always seems to wake up within 20 minutes or so. More mainstream types may think we're crazy, but hey, I think they're pretty crazy too sometimes.
 

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I would recommend that maybe you try reading The No-Cry Sleep Solution. I am trying to get my 3-mo old ds to nap alone --I can't imagine having to hold a toddler everytime he slept. (Not that I'm saying it's wrong for anyone else). That book has lots of gentle, gradual suggestions that could maybe help.
 

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I held my daughter for every nap of her life (except occasionally when her dad held her) from 10 days old on until she was 10 months. Now, at 14 months, she is easy to put down asleep<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/shrug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="shrug"> I seriously thought it would *never* happen, but she did it when she was ready. I didn't do anything to encourage her particularly except try every few weeks to put her down and see what happened. When she woke up after 20 mintues, I held her more and then one day she didn't.<br><br>
I just wanted to post my "I've been there" and that it did end for us. And yes, I miss it sometimes and hold her anyway. People thought it was nuts and always wanted to ask "when do you get 'things' done.?" (Answer: when she is awake ;-)<br><br>
I looked at her nap times as a break for me and I think it really helped me relax and stay sane. It was definietly easier for me than struggling with her every naptime and getting frustrated.
 

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My DD is like that. She WILL go down for the DCP - because she is not me. She rocks her and puts her down sleepy. But DD KNOWS me. She is okay with dad putting her down SOMETIMES.<br>
ARe you the only one around when she is taking a nap?<br>
I also found that DD cannot be put down at all if the room is not pitch black. I think she is less asleep with the light.
 

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My DD, now 16 months, is exactly the same way. Just this week things have changed up a lot though. I've been able to sneak away and she stayed asleep by herself for over an hour for the very first time!! I think it might have something to do with the fact that she has started fighting sleep for up to 2 hours before a nap or bedtime though <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">:
 

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DS napped on my lap till he was almost 2...now he doesn't nap. DD sleeps an array of places <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 
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