Oh yeah, I noticed. I didn't respond initially, because I was pretty sure it was one of *those* posts. But the discussion that evolved was interesting.
We agree that everyone's comfort in the home should be considered. I think that point was covered and is not relevant to the issue of the cps you raised.Actually I believe that everyone's comfort in the home should be considered. Don't really have much else to say. We just disagree.
First and formost, educate yourself as much as you can about this subject. Then talk to your daughter about it. Have a family discussion. Let her know, as with everything else, there is a time and a place for nudity. If it's only family, I don't see a problem. Sounds like her brothers have already seen her nude. However, as someone brought up earlier, when her brothers bring friends over, she should cover up. For that matter, whenever anybody else comes over, she should cover up. Consider going to a nudist resort. There are many family friendly places.My 15 yo daughter asked us if she could be a nudist. We should have seen this coming. I'll try to give a little history, and keep it brief.
First she has two younger brothers. 8 and 12.
The summer before this last one. She was 13 almost 14, she wanted to swim in the pool without her swimsuit. We told her that would be okay as long as only our family was around. She would just wear a towel, go out swim, and play by the pool. I also noticed she started sleeping naked, and hanging out in her room naked.
This summer past, the first day we opened the pool, she came down stairs, and strolled through the house naked. She would even come inside for lunch naked, and I always have to ask her to cover up. Then she would just put on a long tee shirt.
The pool is closed for the winter. She's been very casual about being naked. She come downstairs every morning for breakfast without any clothes on. After school she does homework in her room...of course sans clothes. She makes no effort to cover up if she goes to the rest room, or come downstairs for a drink.
We had a talk to her about it the other night. She said she wants to be a nudist. She asked if we would allow her be nude at home, all the time.
My husband and I have been talking it over. He says we should let her, if it doesn't bother her, it doesn't bother him.
I'm about to give in, but there will be no turning back. I guess I'm just a bit uptight.
So, I though I would post this question here, and see what other parent thought. Without have to bring it up to our friends and family. Thanks so much.
sounds like you have a handle on the situation. Most of the time anyway. I forgot to mention last time that my family and I are nudists. We do cover up when other people are over, or when we go out. But our house is clothing optional, and we spend most of our indoor time sans clothing. Outside chores are done with clothing on of course. We do respect the views of the society we life in. We have one boy, 15, and one girl, 12.Thanks for all your replies. Sorry I have not gotten back here sooner, but I've been really busy.
The update is that we've decided to allow her to be a nudist. We told her on Nov. 1st. It's been almost a month now, and honestly it already has become the norm. I almost don't notice, except for being being on top of making sure the curtains are drawn in the evening. I'm a little envious of how comfortable she is naked. I've tried going nude a couple of times in the last few weeks, and I'm just too self conscious. The boys show no interest in nudity, of course, we'd let them if they wanted.
The only issue is what to do when company comes over. We don't want any mixed messages, to either her or the boys. This issue is at the fore front, because we're having Thanksgiving dinner at our house. We told her that she needs to wear a nice outfit for dinner, and she agreed that it would be inappropriate to be naked when guests arrive, and at the dinner table. We comprimised by telling her that after dinner, when every one is either watching football or playing in the rec room, she is welcome to take off her clothes. Between my husband and I we have a huge family, so it's been a lot of work to them what to expect. We've told them all that basically, we now have a "clothing optional" home, although, Sara is the only one who takes advantage. They've all been unbelievably supportive and open minded.
We still need to talk to other people, like the parents of her brothers friends. The experience with our family is encouraging though, and so are most of the opinions here. As far as CPS is concerned, we talked to our lawer, and there are no laws against family members being nude in the home. Where her friends, and most of all her brothers friends are concerned, we need to be careful. We know Sara has been naked in front of her friends and her brothers friends around the pool already. We never allowed it, but she would just jump in the pool naked out of habit. I told her many times to put on a swimsuit because there we're young boys present. She's never been shy about nudity around her own friends, she's always naked when they're in her room, or the rec room. I don't see that being a problem though.
Concerns about my husband are silly, although I understand your concern. He's a very laid back, open minded guy. I laugh though, when I see him turning the thermostat down in the evening. Passive aggressive? Yes, but funny.
The bolded is something entirely in your imagination. There is no evidence at all that this is the case. You may confuse nudism with sex, but that doesnt meant they are the same thing. I actually find what you say offensive.I would not say that we are nudest at all, but we all tend to strip as soon as we get home and sleep naked. However, I never let my kids have clothes off around people that don't live in our home(ie mom, dad, and siblings). It is natural for people to look at another's body sexually and it invites inappropriate opportunities.
The way she is acting about it makes me think this is more about exploring sexuality than about wanting to be more natural.