Anyway to deal with this??
DD is loud. VERY loud.... also HN. Today, we were eating dinner at IKEA. WATER, WATER, WATER!!!!!! She gets her water, then wants a fork to go with her spoon ( "I want that!!!!! THAT!!! THAT!!") , then sees the pepper and wants some sprinkled on her food. ("I want that!! THAT!! THAT!!) Eats a meatballs, so a slight pause in her LOUD 'talking'. She then screeches "WATER, WATER, WATER!!!!!!". I give her the milk (she uses the word water interchangeably with milk)... she doesn't want the milk, she wants my water... to which she yells "I WANT WATER MOMMY'S!!! AH, AH, AHHHHH!!" (and yes, the girl is speaking in extended sentences, which is a different issue) More water, another slight pause. My oldest wants her hands clean, I mention we'll wash her hands after we eat. My BIG mistake... my 16m old goes excitedly nuts (LOVES water), and wants immediately out of the high chair to wash her hands, all the while she is screeching loudly in excitement. I'm luckily able to distract her....
BUT the WHOLE meal is like this. It isn't tantruming, JUST GETTING HER POINT ACROSS VERY LOUDLY, LIKE IF I WROTE IN CAPS ALL THE TIME FOR EVERYTHING!!! In the car, she just lets out these ear-splitting screeches.
How do you teach a 16m old ya don't YELL EVERYTHING!!! I'm trying to rationalize with her now, b/c I don't know what else to do. "DD, we don't yell at the dinner table... if you want water, say water please... to which she will emphatically sign please....to the point it looks like she is rubbing her chest off, so even her signs are emphatic.
I know much of this is just her temperment, but it really is driving us nuts. Any suggestions???