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It is rare he says anything and ever more rare he says an actual word. We haven't been to the doctor in a few months, he said it was okay then that he didn't say much as long as he was making noises, which he does. We call it Bugsy language. I don't know I am starting to get nervous, wondering if there is a reason he doesn't seem to want to say much.<br><br>
possible explanations~<br>
he's shy (he is around new people, well not wave or say a word, but has frantically waved and said "hi" on many occasions to both dogs and cats)<br><br>
I dote on him too much, not giving him a chance to actually ask for stuff<br><br>
Sometimes he'll repeat us, but not when we are talking with him/asking him questions. If he's playing alone we have on a few occasions heard him talking for his little people and once having a conversation with a stuffed bunny. He can identify all the parts of his face and some body parts by pointing so I know he understands me. He even closes/opens doors etc. when I ask but he gets all flustered when asked to talk. Could he just be very shy?
 

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First, if you are nervous, you can always call Early Intervention, and they will come to your house and do an assessment, usually free of charge or for a minimal cost. They might be called Birth to Three or something similar in your area - if you're not sure you can ask your ped. I'm not saying there is definitely a delay or anything, just that it might help with some of your worries to know where your ds developmentally. The actual assessment is play-based, and kids usually really enjoy it. In my state, they give out the results at the end of the session, so you know right away.<br><br>
It sounds like he's hearing you and understanding wonderfully! When he does 'talk' does it sound like his own language - that baby talk with whole sentences and everything that just isn't in English? What does he do when he wants something? (Point, whine etc.)<br><br><a href="http://members.tripod.com/Caroline_Bowen/devel2.htm" target="_blank">This chart</a> lists some developmental milestones for children in understanding and speaking. That one is a little more general - lists what most kids do from 1 - 2, which is a huge age range. This <a href="http://www.babycenter.com/0_milestone-chart-13-to-18-months_1496589.bc?Ad=com.bc.common.AdInfo%4010b6403d" target="_blank">one</a> is from babycenter, but has some information despite that. It covers milestones from 13 - 18 months. How do you feel about his talking? This is the most important thing - if you feel worried and wonder about it, I'd get an eval. If you are feeling OK, and think he'll be fine, get an eval if you want to for peace of mind, or wait and call in a few months if you're concerned or he's not making progress. Pediatricians know very little about typical/atypical language development, unfortunately. I'd trust yourself, or developmental/speech and language professionals a lot more in this situation.<br><br>
Since he is getting flustered, maybe try backing off on actively trying to get him to repeat. One suggestion I've gotten a lot from SLPs is to repeat the same word a lot, to help the child know it and maybe repeat it on his/her own. (See the <b>puppy</b>? Hi <b>puppy</b>! Oh, pretty <b>puppy</b>) Giving choices is another strategy to help with communication. (Do you want to play blocks or cars?) Accept whatever method he uses to show you his choice - pointing, reaching etc. and repeat it back to him. (Oh, you want <b>blocks</b> Let's play <b>blocks</b>) Of course, these suggestions may or may not help, but they're very easy, and take up very little time during the day.<br><br>
Wow - I've written whole book for this comment, sorry!<br><br>
Good luck, keep us updated!
 

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I have two little boys with speech delays and I wish I would have gotten them help at 18 mos. Although he could be within the range of normal, I would still have him evaluated to be on the safe side.<br>
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If you do decide to get an assessment, <a href="http://www.dars.state.tx.us/ecis/index.shtml" target="_blank">here is the site</a> for EI in Texas. They have a number to get information or refer - 1-800-628-5115.
 

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Thank you! This is so helpful, I am going to contact them because I think it would be in his best interest to be evaluated. There's a place not that far from here. I really appreciate the help and the hugs <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br><i>When he does 'talk' does it sound like his own language - that baby talk with whole sentences and everything that just isn't in English?<br></i><br>
Kind of. Mostly he just says words that sound kind of like this and that dis/dat & he'll say dups (?) over and over into the phone but only when he knows no one is on the line. With his animals they play eating like a a bunny eats a dog or mama, and he'll say num-a-num-a-num in long strings. He was saying mama all the time and now only Dadoo (dada) which kind of bums me out <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> The one thing he'll say, almost without fail is 'hot' The rest is total baby talk. and it is usually little and far between though he well have little bursts usually when he's alone<br><i><br>
What does he do when he wants something? (Point, whine etc.)</i><br>
that's what gets me, the kid is so aggressive in every other way and most of the time he'll just go after what he wants himself (like wiggling out of the high chair and hopping up on the tray to try and get some ice) otherwise he points and yells. hands me what he wants to play with, if he wants me to play too, or he'll hand me/take away books.
 

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My 17 month old ds only says dada and it has been that way for a year. My 17 month old dd says several words so it might just be there personalities......my niece only spoke like 5 words at age 2, so it might just run in our family.....I know every baby is different.
 

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Good luck with EI, I've had great experiences with the one in my area, though they do vary state to state. This is the age to look into getting help if he needs it.<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 
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