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RULE I - WHAT IS IMAGINED OR EXPECTED TENDS TO BE REALIZED<br><br>
RULE III -LAW OF REVERSED EFFECT - Emile Coue, the father of autosuggestion referred to it as the "Law of Reversed Effort." Coue stated, "whenever there is a conflict between the will (conscious effort) and the imagination (mental imagery), not only do we not do that which we wish, but we do the exact opposite." ... The attitude reflected in the Law of Reversed Effect is: I want very much to do it, but I know that I cannot. What is expected then tends to be realized (Rule I) and you obtain the opposite of that which you seek.<br><br><a href="http://hypnosistreatmentcenter.com/page23.html" target="_blank">http://hypnosistreatmentcenter.com/page23.html</a><br><br>
Well, I latched on to a meantion of the first rule of the mind in one of my Hypnobabies CDs recently, and I realized some interesting things about my first birthing. I had/have a belief that outside people have the power to negatively impact my birthing time. I gained this belief by reading numerous birth stories where women are "victimized" by attendants, family members and outsiders. Conversely, I've read many UC birth stories were the absence of outsiders equaled a very positive birth experience. And this belief is continually reinforced with just about every birth story I hear!<br><br>
Previously, I *expected* and *imagined* that if I allowed outsiders any participation in the birth process at all, I would not have an optimal experience. I reacted to that by consciously doing everything in my power to set up a situation where my birthing would be uninterferred with. However, when my birthing time came, I found the reverse - I found that the hands off midwife was suggesting intervention, I found that my parents and inlaws were imposing their energies on the situation, I found that my very husband did not do exactly what I said, but instead acted on his own interpretation of the situation - God himself was not granting me the easy birthing I had worked so hard to obtain. I very much wanted to create the ideal birthing experience, but in fact, believed I could not, if I could not control every person of influence - and I knew I could not truly control what other people did (and certainly not God). So in fact, despite wanting an ideal birthing very much, I believed it was impossible to obtain.<br><br>
So this is a limiting belief - is it not? - that other people have the power to ruin my birthing. I need to replace it with the belief that *I* have the power to create the birthing I want to have (and God wants me to have an easy, comfortable and safe birthing - ie I *deserve* an easy, safe and comfortable birthing).<br><br>
But what about these birth stories I'm continually hearing that seem to reinforce my negative belief? Perhaps these birthings are not really being ruined by outsiders - perhaps other women are creating the birthings they imagined and expected as well? - perhaps my interpretation of the stories is simply propelled by my belief system?<br><br>
Feeling a little bit like I've dodged a bullet here, since I know this limiting belief has been with me and bothering me throughout this pregnancy. I'm very grateful God has blessed me with this new clarity. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love">
 

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Really made me think... <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/notes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="notes">:
 
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