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And this is supposed to be a good thing? All it means is that I am the one safe person he can let it all out with? He is an HSC, and has been very clingy, for lack of a better word, his whole life. I am an HSP and this makes it very difficult for me to be constantly physically attached to another person. If I leave him with other loving adults (Daddy or Grandma) he is fine, happy, runs around playing on his own. As soon as I show up again, he needs me to hold him, he let's out all his upset feelings. I hold him, carry him, love him, and when I need a break I get it in as gentle a way as I can.<br><br>
Mostly I am looking for someone to say--hey, my kid does/did the very same thing, it's OK. Because I occasionally wonder "hmm...maybe I shouldn't be meeting all his needs..he's a spoiled AP kid!" <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> I know he isn't though.
 

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DD is kind of like this. When it is just us she can be whiny, clingy, and very needy. Add another person like DH and most of the time all of that is eliminated. I think sometimes DD is bored with me and wants more entertainment, thus the whining and clinginess, and she asks for other folks. I think she sees me as the primary meeter of her needs, and the other folks are more similar to playmates and cuddle buddies, though DH is a big needs meeter too. Though mama is her cuddle buddy too. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> She has started this constant... "mama...mama...mama...mama" in a very loose and high pitched voice that is kind of yucky.<br><br>
It helps me if it is getting irritating to change our scenery. EX. from indoors to outdoors. Give her something to do... color. I give her 10 minutes of undivided attention... read a book... watch the fish together. On days when she gets a good nap, it is a lot better... so that is priority. And when I really need a break... we go visiting. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
HTH!
 
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