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DD turns two next Tuesday <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love"> and is driving both DH and me to the edge of insanity. All day long it's, "NO!" and "MINE!", and running off, and bursting into tears, and shrieking for "MOMMMMMYYYYYY!" at the top of her lungs from all corners of the house. And the fighting with DS is out of control. If he says he wants one thing, she's sure to request the opposite. UGH! Add in her customary 5:30am wakeup call and I'm about to lose my mind! I'm a morning person, but playdoh at 5:30 is more than I can handle, especially at 7 months pregnant.<br><br>
In contrast, DS was seriously the easiest toddler imaginable (hell as a baby, but that's another story). He never said no, never threw a tantrum, rarely cried, and listened very well. Now I'm learning what the "Terrible Twos" are all about. And I'm really concerned that it will only get worse when Baby #3 arrives in May.<br><br>
I am a confirmed non-spanker, but Kay drives me right to the edge on a daily basis (to the edge, not over <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1">). Oh, she makes me FURIOUS!
 

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Oh my...I feel your pain...thought my issues with Kai were different. I don't believe in the "terrible twos", but I have said this before...2 was a bit rough for me in my parenting.<br>
My issues with Kai was him asserting his independance with such vigor. I adore the fact that he's very independant, and wants to do things himself...he THINKS he's and adult, I kid you not!! He is *exactly* like me...and that's what was so difficult to deal with. It's a bit overwhelming trying to think of exactly what examples of his behavior to give you, but he was definately more difficult the second year. He just turned 3, and he is so much more calm and understanding. Don't get me wrong...he's a wild child still...but much more easy to handle.<br>
I think the issue in the second year is the communication skills. They KNOW what they want to say, but they don't know how. They are asserting their will with resistance from their parents, and they don't understand why.<br>
For us, 2 was the year we all learned how to live *together*...LOL! Kai is exceptionally smart for his age. Very observant with strong comprehension. It was rough learning how to communicate with him. It has taken a lot of internal dialogue, constantly reminding myself that I NEED to back off a little. My mohter was VERY hard on me. She was also very abusive, physically and verbally. Parenting has been such a challenge for because of the example I had growing up. I have had to find a proper balance with the idea of GD and the kind of discipline I was raised with...which is a whole other thread!!<br>
Now that Kai is 3...things are running much smoother for us. He's so much more verbal...so much that I just want to turn him off (if only they came with an off switch) sometimes!<br>
Just hang in there momma...there is a light at the end of the tunnel. We made a lot of trips to the park when Kai was 2....Chuck E Cheese, the Aquarium...anyplace he could run around and not be a bother to anybody else. This allowed him to be independant somewhat, and release pent up energy. He was so much more grumpy when we stayed around the house....he likes to get out.<br>
Hang in there...take one day at a time....hopefully tomorrow will be better.
 

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you're not alone here!~ i can NOT imagine dealing with it at 7 mo pg, i was such a hormonal wreck when pg i cried all the time, usually the most when i was happy! lol.<br><br>
only suggestions i have are water therapy. on hard days, she gets 2 or 3 baths if only to get her to shake off a nasty tantrum or whatever, and she plays in the tub with her toys while i blow bubbles or sit and floss and chill out. good luck and hang in there, it really helps to vent it here.<br><br>
what i wouldn't give for just ONE YES a day. lol<br><br>
jen<br>
caitlyn 2/9/04
 

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Feeling your pain here, too. DD is really driving me to the brink (but not over <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1">) every day too--she is incredibly negative, incredibly stubborn, and everything is a power struggle right now, no matter how hard we try for it not to be. She's also been hitting and kicking. At the same time she is intensely loving. I jokingly called her "my abusive boyfriend" to someone the other day-- probably not in good taste, but the relationship has that level of intensity and love/hate right now, and this is new to us.
 

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I was just going to post that I CAN"T TAKE IT ANYMORE!!!!!!!!!!!<br>
Our DD is 17 months old and the No's have just kicked in... she isn't saying it but she just shakes her head to EVERYTHING.<br>
Plus we are trying to cut down the nursing because its ALL she wants to do and I can't do it anymore.... I don't want to wean her completely but I would really like to cut down...<br>
Its like I can't do anything with her without her getting frusterated about her toys..or upset because I said No to something and instantly she flips out and starts wanting milkies... she's riping my shirt off... pulling at my hair, hitting me in the face...<br>
I can't cook because she pulls at my legs and throws tantrums in the kitchen while I"m trying to make her lunch or something....<br>
If I try to lay down on the couch for 10 min she gets upset and wants milkies... or instantly needs my attention....<br>
I realize that part of the milkies is she needs my attention but whenever I do spend time with her she wants milkies so its a vicious cycle...<br>
She has sent me over the edge many times and I end up locking myself in the bedroom to hide from my little monster... then I feel bad....<br>
I don't know what to do.... I have so much patience but I think I'm going to loose it! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/BFPChart2.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Chart">:<br>
and I feel like a bad mom because I"m not spending the time I would like to with her... but its not even close to pleasent for more than a few minutes.. she does alot better with her dad... or when I'm hiding from her....<br>
I've been a SAHM since she was born... with a little outside work and school... but I've actually been considering putting her in daycare ....<br>
I hate that I'm saying it... but I feel like I've failed or something.... she'd be better off there and maybe I'd be less stressed out and we could enjoy some time together.....<br>
Point is... I feel your pain... I don't think it gets any better anytime soon...<br>
Seems like a common problem....<br>
Oh well...<br><br>
Andrea
 
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