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My DS is 19mo. We stopped bfing at 5 months. I'm a BFAR mom and my supply was too limited as was his patience! So he drinks milk from a bottle. He is demanding the bottle more and more. How do I wean away from the bottle, gradually or cold turkey?? He does drink it from a sippy cup. He has a bottle in the morning, before bed, and now increasingly in the middle of the night.<br><br>
Now the night waking - all different times. He'll be just lying in his bed crying inconsolably. He'll cry for a while then ask for a bottle. I'm just not thrilled with having to wake up for night feedings anymore. I know that sounds awful, but I thought we were done. My dh is useless at night. He says just give him a bottle. I think he's just going to keep waking up and asking for a bottle if he knows he can have one.<br><br>
The other issue with this is that he won't go back to his bed after. He wants to sleep with us. We don't cosleep not because we're opposed to it but because he's awful to sleep with!! He takes up the whole bed. He'll sleep horizontally and kick and cry in his sleep. We don't get any sleep when he's there (Although I do love that morning smile and kiss - it takes away all the kicks to the gut from the night before :)<br><br>
I'm torn because I want to give him what he wants and I know he won't be going to preschool with a bottle, but maybe I could stop the night waking and the insistent baba baba baba baba baba <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">:<br><br>
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I don't have bottle experience but I would do it the same way I would with nursing, gradually. I guess you are putting milk in the bottle? How about water instead?<br><br>
Nightwaking is pretty normal, sorry. My 18 month old is up a minimum of once a night and usually about 3 times. Which means there are some nights with mroe wakings. My thought would be that your DS just has sucking needs at night to help comfort him. If you do water you could just give him a bottle in his bed and pat/rub his back and sing or whatever to comfort him instead of taking him out of bed.<br><br>
What do you think?
 

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water in the bottle might work. I won't put milk in a bottle for him to keep but I would consider water.<br><br>
He doesn't use a paci anymore either. He popped it out of his mouth at about 6 months and never wanted it back. I am happy about that but I do think it's a soothing issue as well at night. If he had a paci he might go back to sleep.<br><br>
He's just such a good sleeper normally that I feel terribly for him. He usually sleep straight through about 8 or 9 hours.<br><br>
Do you nurse in the middle of the night still? Or do you try to soothe you lo other ways?<br><br>
water with patting sounds like a good try for tonight. thx
 

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We sorta "accidentally" weaned DS from the bottle cold turkey at 20 mos. He basically chewed holes in all the nipples while we were on vacation, and I didn't want to replace them because I had been wanting to get him off the bottle for some time (he drank everything but milk out of a cup already). Had I planned it out I don't think it would have gone as well as it did.<br><br>
We simply told him the bottles were broken and he would have to use a cup. The first night was hard, he cried for an hour for his milk (with both Daddy and I right there with him comforting him). We cosleep so nothing changed except the absence of the bottle. The next night Daddy told him stories until he fell asleep, which was 10 minutes and the night after that it was 5 minutes. We still parent him to sleep every night (rocking usually), it just no longer includes a bottle.<br><br>
One beneficial side effect, he started sleeping through the night only after weaning from the bottle. He had never slept through the night prior to that!
 

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Well I tend to think kids wean themselves off of things when they're ready. Both my boys had bottles at some point and gave them up all on their own when they were ready. That's not something I would push, but if you do, do it gradually as others have said. When we did use bottles, there was very specific times he had them. My kid's a routine fanatic so that wasn't hard. He had one before bed and naps.<br><br>
When we night weaned, my 18 month old slept through the night. Before that he woke up every hour to eat at night. We were cosleeping part time but after night weaning, he stayed in his bed. He's an awful cosleeper like yours is too. What we did is I'd nurse him to sleep at night, then put him in his bed. Whenever he woke up, dh would go get him and soothe him back to sleep. After just a few nights, he wasn't waking up at all. Even now if he wakes at night, dh goes to him. But it might not work as well if your dh hasn't been doing any night feedings before. But it probably won't hurt to try.
 

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I weaned ds from the boob to a bottle at 17months. He still has one if he wakes up in the middle of the night. He will give it up when he is ready. He woke up at least twice a night until 25 months....now at 31months its more like once a week.
 

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We bottled weaned ds at 14 months. I had intended to use the process Jay Gordon recommends on his website (drjaygordon.com), which is gradual. We ended up going cold turkey though after talking to a few people who had tried it. It wasn't an easy night, but it only took the one night. Ds wasn't happy, but dh and I comforted him and explained that he would have milk again in the morning. The next night he fussed, but didn't cry and the night after he was fine! He's been sleeping through the night for 3 months and it's been bliss!
 

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So after I wrote to you all he woke up from his nap with red cheeks and then took a runny poo. Two of his teething signs. I think it's his two year molars. He has every other tooth!!<br><br>
So that's why he's been waking up!!<br><br>
I'm not going to push the bottle thing while he's getting molars, but baba's days are numbered after that<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngtongue.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Stick Out Tongue"><br><br>
He did wake up last night, but didn't ask for a baba, just wanted mama <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/loveeyes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Loveeyes">:
 

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It has been such a hard thing for us too. My son has never been a good sleeper, at 6 months we moved him into our bed and that helped a lot but he still wakes up on average 3 times a night (he is 17 months) and wants a bottle. Last night was a great night, he slept 8:30-3:15 in his crib and then came into our bed. Around 3:15 he had a few ounces of water and then more or less slept until 7...grabbing at my lips the whole time but sleeping...another issue. I would love to cut out the milk bottle altogether. I think it gives him gas, and when he drinks a lot of milk through the night he ends up pooping at like 5 which means he is up for the day. We tried watering the milk down, limitting the milk...but he ends up just waking up an hour later wanting more. It is so hard to not give a very upset little boy a bottle of milk when he is signing for it with both hands....<br>
Hope it continues to get better, I could use some sleep being 32 weeks pregnant.<br>
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We continued with the before bed bottle for a long time and our plan was to end when he finally chewed through the last nipple. I finally kicked the bottle habit when we were going on vacation to family and I was embarrssed that he still had a night time bottle. I just didn't bring the bottles with us and DS didn't even seem to miss it in the least. It blew my mind when I realized we were the ones with the bottle crutch...not DS. I'd wait till he's teething gets better and try to swap the bottle for cups.
 
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