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My 4th dd is 2 months old.. we went to a check up when she was 2 weeks old and never scheduled the regular 2 month well baby visit.<br><br>
The reason I haven't is because I'm whimping out. I have decided not to vax her or if I do vax it will be two vaccines and not until she is 2 years old.<br><br>
I declined the Hep B in the hospital and got no slack this time around from the doc (did this with my 3rd dd and got hell from a different doc in the group - we did continue to vax her but I will be stopping now, she is 2)...<br><br>
I'm not sure how to handle the doctor... I know I can say that I'm opposed to vaxes for religious reasons but I have three other dds that have been vaxed in that office... also, if I do decide to selective at age 2 I figured maybe it would be better to tell doc now that we will not be vaxing until after her 2nd bday. I was even considering telling doc that we had someone in the family with a reaction... ugh I know I'm reaching here.<br><br>
Also, can my insurance company do anything if they find out I am not vaxing? I also worry about the doc or someone else considering it child neglect.<br><br>
I guess I'm just really nervous about the doc visit.... how should I handle it, should I call and speak to the doctor on the phone first?<br><br>
Thanks mamas.
 

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Why bother going at all? My last little grandson has never been to the doc. She had him examined in the hospital after birth and that was it. He is almost 9 mo. old now.<br><br>
If a child is healthy you don't have to take him to the doc. And if you should ever need a doctor, you would go to the ER anyway. Then they'll just call the doc that's on call that day.<br><br>
Also, if you do go to the doc, you don't have to explain anything. You can just say you do not want to vaccinate this child. Period. If she starts to discuss it, say you do not feel comfortable discussing it and you have made your decision. It is not up for discussion. Cut her short every time. Do not let her talk. Not at all. Demand respect for your decision.<br><br>
I just don't get it that people are afraid of their doctor. They are people like everyone else.<br><br>
S/he has no right to call childr. serv. for any reason. They have no right to threaten you or use that threat. There is NO law that says you must vaccinated your child or yourself.<br><br>
Vaccines are only suggested. They are mandated for school but you still do not have to use them.<br><br>
Don't be worried. There is nothing to fear but fear itself.<br><br>
Many moms here have got to learn to be more confident when it comes to talking to doctors. Maybe we should do a thread about it. It is ridiculous that anyone should be afraid of another person who can not do harm to them unless the person allows it to happen.
 

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Thanks.<br><br>
Yes I was going to just not go at all but I actually prefer going to the doctors office over the ER when the girls are very ill. We also use our public school system and need to get annual physicals.
 

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I think people get nervous because we have all heard stories of docs calling CPS and reporting them for "medical neglect".<br><br>
I love my pediatrican, very supportive of extended bf and tandem nursing etc. but I am worried about telling them I am going to stop vaxing. I hope they dont boot me from thier service, but if they do, they do. Now that Im not vaxing, Im seriously considering not doing well checks. I WORK in the field of child development, they never tell me anything I dont know. But there is that whole medical neglect thing, so Im undecided on well checks.
 

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Why do you need to get annual physicals??<br><br>
Have the girls been very ill often?
 

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I think it might be a school requirement?<br><br><br>
To the OP:<br>
Find a GP or a FP. They generally couldn't care less about vaxes, and they often do WBVs.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink">
 

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There is nothing your insurance company can do about it, so no worries there. CPS will not open an investigation just because you don't vaccinate, so it really doesn't matter whether your doctor thinks it's neglect. There have to be other reasons to investigate a family, so unless you give him another reason or he makes one up, you have nothing to worry about.
 

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yes it is a school requirement<br>
my children have not been very ill often however my one dd had severe allergy issues and we needed a referral from our doctor for our insurance - we also need to list a primary doc for insurance purposes and get a bonus at dh's work if we all get annual physicals.<br><br>
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FTR, you can exempt your child from school health examination requirements too and a letter can be submitted along with the CT pre-printed immunization exemption form:<br><br><i>Health Assessments, Health Screenings, treatment and medical instruction (Section 10-208 C.G.S.) are waived if the parent or legal guardian of the pupil, or the pupil (if he or she is an emancipated minor or is eighteen years of age or older) notifies school personnel in writing that the parent, guardian or pupil objects on religious grounds.</i><br><br><a href="http://www.state.ct.us/sde/circ/circ00-01/c-26.pdf" target="_blank">http://www.state.ct.us/sde/circ/circ00-01/c-26.pdf</a>
 

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For what it's worth - when my homeborn ds was a week old, we took him to a non-vax friendly ped because the midwife was concerned about the cord (which turned out to be fine). We don't have office coverage, and I wanted to pay discount cash, but they didn't do it. So I said that, since we weren't vaxing, I didn't want to come in SEVEN times in his first year. She had me sign the stupid form (which now I am trying to revoke), and said we needed to be on their schedule. I ignored it and took him in again at 6 months, exactly for the reason you state - to have a doctor to call if I have a question. She never said a word about the fact that we hadn't been in prior. We won't take him in again for any checkups, I just wanted him to have a file somewhere that I thought was reasonable. I don't love the ped, but she doesn't bully me.
 

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My daughter is 10 months old, she hasn't been to the dr since her first visit. She received the vitamin K shot and the first Hep B shot in the hospital, at birth. But, hasn't received any since. What's the Dr going to tell me? How much she weighs and how tall she is? She's very healthy and therefore, I'm not worried about going to the Dr. But, if you do go, clearly tell them you don't want to vaccinate, if they argue with you, switch dr's. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink">
 
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