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My 21 month old dd is still getting over 70% of her nutrition from formula in a bottle! She has a full mouth full of teeth (except 2 year molars), and she knows HOW to chew, but she just doesn't seem that interested in solid foods. And by that, I mean anything that isn't baby formula, including pureed fruit! She does eat some things - both pureed texture and cruchy stuff - but what she'll consent to eat changes from day to day and seldom exceeds more than about 5-6 ounces. I do try to remember that every child develops at their own pace, but I can't help wondering if something is off-kilter...<br><br>
(just to forestall any side discussion, I am a committed breatfeeding mama as well, but have not been able to produce enough milk since DD was about 3 months, and yes we have tried the LC, the herbs, the pumping, the massage, the meditation, and the domperidone<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
Is there any chance that she isn't interested in solids because she's getting complete nutrition from formula? Should I be transitioning her to milk instead of formula? (My thinking so far has been to keep her on formula until she's eating a bigger percentage of solids, since milk isn't a balanced nutrition). I've gotten advice to just not give her the bottle, and when she gets hungry enough, she'll eat the solid food. This advice doesn't sound right to me, though.<br><br>
On the other hand, I would dearly love to say goodbye forever to Similac...<br><br>
Is there anyone out there with a similar experience? Any words of wisdom?<br><br>
Thanks!
 

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Does she do things like choke and gag on solids? Make icky faces from certain textures? if not I'm guessing she's just being picky. You could try withholding the bottle for a couple days and see what happens. My dd didn't really eat solids till right before she turned 3 and it was a major pain in the rear teaching her. She had sensory issues which were causing a lot of problems eating but a lot of it also was because she associated hunger with nursing and would demand to nurse when hungry instead of eat solids. The feeding clinics will tell you pull the bottle and set up a meal schedule, you dont eat, you dont get the bottle. They may go hungry for a day but after a while your sanity demands they eat solids.
 

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Sorry but I think that's exactly what you should do. She's almost two and formula can't meet the needs of a two yr old. Plus she needs to learn how to use utensils and she'll probably end up not liking lots of foods if she's not exposed to them early.
 

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What if you offered solids first? Cut down to a bottle only at certain times? I don't have any advice, really, but I guess I would want to expose my child to the textures, tastes and nutrition in whole foods.
 

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Recently, when I was at an LLL meeting, they were saying babies should not have bottles after they turn one. They can still have bm or formula, but it should be in a cup of some sort. I would not deprive your dc of food or milk. Try to make meals fun and playful. Try to get her eating with her hands as well as a spoon. Be messy. Have your meals at the same time each day, and don't give her a bottle before solids. You may need to mix formula with the food to help it taste familiar or at rice cereal to make it blander because the flavors may be real strong to her. Try getting grahm crackers that mash easily to dip. My dd has sensory issues, too, and it was not something I could self diagnose. Our regime for getting dd to eat has not included deprivation of milk... I would not take any drastic changes, but consider consulting a professional, such as your ped, if she does not seem to able to eat.
 

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If it were me, I'd probably continue to treat the bottle of formula as a substitute breast and let the child take the lead in how much milk vs. solids. But I will add that I've never had a toddler with as little interest in solid foods as yours.<br><br>
I'm not personally a big fan of the "Get them off the bottle" camp- I used bottles for ebm until I stopped pumping when ds was 21mo (but this was about 1 bottle a week at that point, not several a day.) My middle child weaned a little after her first birthday and she used a lot of bottles (with cow's milk) until she was about 2 and I weaned her to sippy cups. I honestly can't remember when she stopped using sippy cups- and I no longer thing sippy cups are much different than bottles anyway- they can cause the same problems with teeth and ear infections.<br><br>
Most 21mo children DO need to suck a lot- if you decide to cut down on the formula bottles, I'd suggest letting her have bottles of water unless she's still nursing (you mentioned not having enough milk and needing to supplement- you didn't mention if your toddler is completely weaned or not.)<br><br>
I would try to encourage her to eat more solids- my kids always seemed to think things tasted better from my plate than their own!!! I would not suggest making any drastic changes or stopping the formula cold turkey.
 

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Thanks for all your helpful advice. I probably should have clarified some things in the first post, as I re-read, it is not apparent how she eats solids, just that she doesn't - very much.<br><br>
I am still breastfeeding, but she's been eating solids since 7 1/2 months. She eats all kinds of stuff: anything dairy, rice, beans, vegetable soup, poultry, fish, whole grain bread, crackers, and sometimes fruit (I think she's got a texture issue). We do give her solids before we offer a bottle, and we wait a while before offering the bottle - sometimes an hour or more. She knows how (and loves) to use a spoon and fork; she accepts sippy cups, and she does pretty well with a regular (non child proof) small cup. Although she didn't like to touch food with her fingers for a long time, recently she has begun to enjoy touching it and picking it up, too. My DH and I have tried to offer her a wide variety of nutritious, attractive food at least 3 times each day. And we have tried to make eating times relaxed and comfortable - no force feeding, no praising, just being matter of fact about eating. Honestly, I think we've done most of the things suggested to encourage her (except taking the bottle away completely). She just doesn't seem that interested!<br><br>
Satori mentioned feeding clinics - can you tell me more about these? I've never heard of them.<br><br>
Again, thanks for sharing your experiences. I guess we need to think about next steps. I'm still not sure about pulling the bottle, though. That is going to take more thought and prayer.<br><br>
Rebekah
 

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OK, it sounds like you're handling this pretty much the same way I would. My son was probably getting about 60% of his nutrition from breastmilk at that age- plus he had no problems eating table foods or drinking from a cup.<br><br>
Maybe its time to transition slowly away from the formula- maybe mix formula and whole cow's milk in the bottles rather than using pure formula?
 

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Remember me? My 21 month old who was still drinking mostly formula? She's off it - completely. She gets one bottle of milk per day - before bed. That's it. Of course she still gets to BF as much as she wants! The big thing was not letting her have a bottle in the middle of the night. That took 2 weeks of diluting, and then 1 week of very little sleep b/c she kept waking up to ask for it. But then she finally got HUNGRY and started eating in the morning, hallelujah! I started giving her the new foods in the morning when she was hungriest (and least picky) and save the tried and true (yogurt with cereal) for later. Once she started out eating in the morning, she stopped asking for bottles!<br>
I'm constantly amazed at how quickly children can change, with so little input from us. Thanks again to people who chimed in with their experiences and advice - this is the first place I think of (always before the pediatrician) when we have a non-emergency issue to resolve. So much wisdom out there - thanks for sharing yours.<br><br>
rebekah
 

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Thats great! Sounds like she was filling up on the bottles so she wasn't hungry enough to want to eat. It great when they decide to eat isn't it? <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin">
 
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