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Okay, so my other two who are extended breastfeeding alumni kind of played around all day and maybe took a nip a couple of times a day at this point (almost 2). At night they had stopped nursing except on occasion.<br><br>
Then there is dc3. OMG! He is adorable, jolly and chunky like a little gnome. But he literally continues to nurse like an infant! Three to four times a night...I mean gulping and drinking deeply... and every few hours a day.<br><br>
He gets three square meals, two snacks (sometimes more!) and has access to a sippy cup with cool water and cow's milk all day long. The doc says he is as healthy as a horse and loves her little home-birth patient.<br><br>
Yet my son still nurses like this!<br><br>
he seems happy...but I am kind of losing my mind at this point. Other times, I love it.<br><br>
Should I be concerned about anything?
 

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Gosh, I don't know, 3-4 times a night is a lot. Could you offer a cup of water instead (riiiight, I can hear the baby cyring already). It's probably more of a comfort thing, than a food thing.
 

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You can absolutely set nursing boundaries and work on nightweaning him if you want. That will still keep your bf'ing relationship but reduce it to more manageable levels. Dr. Jay Gordon has a good article on how to nightwean while cosleeping and AP'ing that you can find via google.
 

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If he were younger, I would wonder if there was a silent reflux thing going on. Is that possible?
 

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My DD1 was like this, I swear that I used to scare off all the new moms at LL with my 2.5+y old who would spend the entire meeting nursing. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> That was my life, until she was 3y, she would nurse every hour on a good day, and several times a night, at least 3. Right when she turned 3y, she stopped waking up at night to nurse, then I got pg with DD2, and my milk supply dropped to nothing. DD1 wasn't so interested in nursing once there wasn't any milk, she continued to nurse once in a while until right when she was turning 4, then she decided nursing was just for babies.<br><br><br>
DD1 was fine, healthy, she just had a very avid need to nurse for several years. It is very different between children, it can throw you for a loop. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">: My DD2 is nothing like DD1 and she is still such a baby, she just doesn't have that intense need to nurse. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> Hang in there, it can be challenging to have a toddler that nurses more then a newborn. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">If he were younger, I would wonder if there was a silent reflux thing going on. Is that possible?</div>
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Hmmm. Can you explain that more? My dd had reflux as an infant.<br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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<div style="font-style:italic;">My DD1 was like this, I swear that I used to scare off all the new moms at LL with my 2.5+y old who would spend the entire meeting nursing. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> That was my life, until she was 3y, she would nurse every hour on a good day, and several times a night, at least 3. Right when she turned 3y, she stopped waking up at night to nurse, then I got pg with DD2, and my milk supply dropped to nothing. DD1 wasn't so interested in nursing once there wasn't any milk, she continued to nurse once in a while until right when she was turning 4, then she decided nursing was just for babies.<br><br><br>
DD1 was fine, healthy, she just had a very avid need to nurse for several years. It is very different between children, it can throw you for a loop. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">: My DD2 is nothing like DD1 and she is still such a baby, she just doesn't have that intense need to nurse. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> Hang in there, it can be challenging to have a toddler that nurses more then a newborn. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"></div>
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OMG Peony...you are saving what's left of my sanity!I am so grateful there is another mama out there who has gone thru this...this CHILD is SO attached to me! At the same time he is very strong willed and so any alteration in the nursing relationship results in energetic, loud tantrums...even in what seems to be the middle of his sleep. He is just a very intense kid. Period! Arg!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/loveeyes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Loveeyes">:<br><br>
I am glad to know that he may change. Part of me feels that since he is SO intense and so attached, I should support him as long as he needs. He is also pretty bright and is saying new words every day now. The doc says when they take a cognitive leap, they feel insecure because the world is looking larger to them... so they cling to mama even more.<br><br>
SHEESH!
 

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My Daughter is turning two next week and still nurses constantly during the day- At least every two hours or whenever I sit down for any reason. I did recently night wean on a limited basis. She nurses to sleep (around 10) and then nurses again at about 5 am for two hours till we get up at 7. She is also a really good eater, in fact she eats more than my 4yo. I think that she just has a really fast metabolism and well, she just likes to nurse.
 

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My DD is 20 months & rarely goes an hour without nursing. Nighttime IS another matter though. She never nurses to sleep anymore and never night nurses. She does nurse first thing in the AM though.<br>
I really don't think what you're describing is that strange. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 

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My friend has 2.5 yr old that nurses like this. She's ok with it, but at times when she's not she uses distraction or whatever to redirect him to something else. Good luck! I know it takes a lot of time out of your day for nursing... but just think how many books you could be reading <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1">
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Hmmm. Can you explain that more? My dd had reflux as an infant.<br></div>
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Well, don't babies with reflux nurse for comfort & eat more frequently to keep the acid down?
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">My Daughter is turning two next week and still nurses constantly during the day- At least every two hours or whenever I sit down for any reason. I did recently night wean on a limited basis. She nurses to sleep (around 10) and then nurses again at about 5 am for two hours till we get up at 7. She is also a really good eater, in fact she eats more than my 4yo. I think that she just has a really fast metabolism and well, she just likes to nurse.</div>
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Okay, It really is a relief to hear there are others out there like him!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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<div style="font-style:italic;">I really don't think what you're describing is that strange. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"></div>
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Thanks! Whew!<br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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<div style="font-style:italic;">... but just think how many books you could be reading <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1"></div>
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True!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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<div style="font-style:italic;">Well, don't babies with reflux nurse for comfort & eat more frequently to keep the acid down?</div>
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Yes that is true. But I do have to add that I do not see in him any of the motions of reflux my daughter had. I swear I am worried he could be a little on the obsessive side. And he just so happens to have fixated on my boobs!
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Hmmm. Can you explain that more? My dd had reflux as an infant.<br><br><br>
OMG Peony...you are saving what's left of my sanity!I am so grateful there is another mama out there who has gone thru this...this CHILD is SO attached to me! At the same time he is very strong willed and so any alteration in the nursing relationship results in energetic, loud tantrums...even in what seems to be the middle of his sleep. He is just a very intense kid. Period! Arg!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/loveeyes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Loveeyes">:<br><br>
I am glad to know that he may change. Part of me feels that since he is SO intense and so attached, I should support him as long as he needs. He is also pretty bright and is saying new words every day now. The doc says when they take a cognitive leap, they feel insecure because the world is looking larger to them... so they cling to mama even more.<br><br>
SHEESH!</div>
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Yep, sounds very familiar. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink"> She was close to 3y before I could tell her "just a minute" when she wanted to nurse without it being met with a tantrum. She was just so intense and attached, I had to support her. She is still an intense child, but she isn't so attached to me. When she was old enough, it was just like a light switch was hit, that need was met, and she moved on, it happened very quickly.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Yep, sounds very familiar. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink"> She was close to 3y before I could tell her "just a minute" when she wanted to nurse without it being met with a tantrum. She was just so intense and attached, I had to support her. She is still an intense child, but she isn't so attached to me. When she was old enough, it was just like a light switch was hit, that need was met, and she moved on, it happened very quickly.</div>
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*Wipes sweat from forehead* Whew! Thank you Peony. I think this is EXACTLY what is going on. My daughter was exactly the same, but the difference is that at 6 months my dh stayed home with her because I got a great waldorf teaching job (which later turned out to be crap...but that's another story!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink">). So, she was away from me all day and not so literally attached to me like "the boy".<br><br>
Again, thank you!<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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tottally normal beanie baby, ds is 25mths and still does it <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1">
 

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I haven't read all the replies, but my son is almost twenty-<i>seven</i> months and still nurses like that. If we're out and about (like on Thanksgiving) he might only nurse once during the day, but if we're home or at my mom's (where he feels comfortable) he'll want to nurse every few hours (or even less!). At night he nurses to sleep and then it's about every three hours or so. And that's an improvement to what it was several months ago!<br><br>
He's big for his age, very healthy (almost never sick), and a happy, mellow kid. He's also teething right now (two-year molars) so I'm just happy to be able to give him some comfort. I stay home full-time and he's my only so I have that luxury!
 

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My son will be 4 in 2 months (I'm not sure how many months old that is. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">)<br><br>
Until a little after his 3rd birthday, this was EXACTLY what he did. It really is normal and ok. He was nursing about every 2 hours at night (now he is cut back to about every 4-5 hours), and nursed all day long (every hour or so).<br><br>
Now that we are approaching 4 years old, he still nurses frequently through the day, but now maybe only 6-8 times in the daytime, and at night, he goes 4-5 hours without asking, and then nurses ALL morning long (in the wee hours of the morning around sunrise).<br><br>
You son is totally normal. Don't worry. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink">
 

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My DD is 20 months and she nurses all of the time. If we are out and about, and she's very distracted, sometimes she wont ask to nurse for a couple of hours. But at home (or at a playdate), I can't go more than 1-2 hours without her asking for the breast. She nurses (and gets milk) at night 3-4 times as well. She isn't a big eater, so I know that those nighttime snacks help her keep her weight up.
 

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I'm there right now with my 23-month-old. I was just telling DH today, that it would be nice to sit down and NOT have DS climb in my lap and "assume the position." It never fails. Every. Time. I. Sit. I don't mind it for the most part, but sometimes I just want to breath! He is also soooooo persistent, strong-willed, determined, and incredibly opinionated. He's been super clear about his nursing demands from Day 1--and sometimes it feels like I AM nursing a newborn (well, I think my toddler is nursing more now than he was then)!<br><br>
I have a night-time gulper too. I'm happy that if he's gulping, then he means business. Lately, though, it's back to the non-nutritive suckling that lasts for hours. And if I want to roll over, look out! Gah!<br><br>
Unlike your DS, though, mine is not an eater. I sure wish he was, but there are days when he will only nurse and turns his nose to anything that doesn't come out of my nipples. Double Gah!<br><br>
I'm glad to hear that other mama's with similar -type children saw a huge decrease in nursing sessions at around 3 years. There IS hope! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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Wow! All the latest posts are such a help! I am so grateful to have other mamas with which to talk about this. I had to laugh at the comment about the minute you sit down ds thinks it's "assume the position" time.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/biglaugh.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="laugh">:<br><br>
I sh** you not, I sat at the computer last night before supper, and was typing away, and then noticed he was interfering with the typing...and he was on my lap and <b>nursing</b>!<br><br>
OMG! It was so instinctual I did not even notice until he was nursing. Instinctual or exhaustion. One of those.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br>
Thank you for all the reassurances that he/we are normal. And like the pp said, I can not roll over at night either. He is super strong-willed and wants to lay against my front at all times.<br><br>
Oy!<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br>
~Bean
 
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