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Am I completely nuts? I had planned on dd1 (26m) and dd2 (4m) sharing a room. the 4m old sleeps pretty well at night now. She is in our room in a cradle and usually wakes once to nurse during the night, and someitmes once more but i usually just soothe her back to sleep. (she could nurse if she wanted but i find she usually just needs a pat or two and she's content)<br>
the 26m old sleeps great and has for over a year. She is in a full size bed and there is a crib in her room.<br>
I'm scared to ruin a good thing.<br>
Has anyone transitioned a baby into a toddlers room? Any tips or experiences you can share will be helpful. I'm not worried about jealousy or territorial issues with the 26m old. She hasn't had any jealousy issues at all and seems to want to share with her little sister.
 

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IMO infants belong in bed with mom. I would not be comfortable with an infant in a different room from me.<br><br>
-Angela
 

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I think the other problem might be that while your 4 mos is sleeping well now it may not continue..I pray it does for you but it may not and the wkaing babe might wake the sister...also now you have to go into another room to get the waking baby. So now everyone's tired. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">:<br><br>
Maybe just wait it out til the baby is a toddler and then you will have more of feel for it...b/c right now the sisiter might be in love with this creature that can't move around but one that baby is taking toys sisiter might not want to share everything anymore. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1">
 

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We took ds out of our room when he started sleeping through the night at 5 months and put him in with his 2yo sister. It went fine for a few months till his sleeping patterns changed and now he is up three times a night again (he is almost 11 months old).<br><br>
It was interrupting everyone's night since we have such a small house. So eventually we just brought him back into our room. And this time we put him in our bed which was something we weren't comfortable with when he was newborn.<br><br>
In hindsight I won't be so quick to get a baby into another room again... And we plan on cosleeping with the new baby when she comes.
 

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my dd will sleep in the room with my son when he is born. well, after the baby stops waking up at night, my dd did this at 6 months, so i am hoping the same for my son. adding that my dd started waking back up in the middle of the night around the age of one and came back in bed with us.
 

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At that age my kids would DEFINATLY be sharing a room cuz they'd both be in the same room as mama! (Same bed for that matter...)
 

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I had my 2 year old and infant in the same room as well...but, I was in the room myself. The whole room was a mattress so we could all sleep together with everyone's needs met....<br><br>
I like my babies/toddlers near me...<br><br>
If you move her into another room she will have to wake and cry for you...that is not healthy for either of you really....and if they share a room she will wake her sibling...<br><br>
I'd stick with what is working...<br>
~Charlene~
 

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I don't think it would be safe to put a 4mo in the same room with a 26 mo without an adult being in there, too. What if the toddler wants to snuggle with the baby and ends up suffocating her? I have heard of things like that happening. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"><br><br>
I put my girls together when my baby was 22 months. I have a 3 year gap between my kids.
 

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If your child is used to the cradle and does well, I wouldn't change it (except to move to the crib when she outgrows it). You know your 26 month better than anyone - would they be safe in the same room? Some toddlers are very mellow and would be fine with an infant, others wouldn't. If you are nervous about it, maybe wait a few months and then try it out. If it doesn't work, move her back into your room. Mine were a little older when I put them together, but I think they would have been fine earlier. My babies always slept in their own room, by the way, and they did fine, so don't feel bad about moving her if that is what you want to do. I always heard them and responded and no one was unhappy. It's nice your daughters are so close in age, it's fun having a sister close in age!
 

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well, they can share a room without sleeping in it. both my ds2 and ds3 have their own rooms but they dont sleep in them. from what you are saying, your baby is waking up once or twice, or more sometimes, at night. that means you will be getting up out of bed at least once or more each night. it also means your baby will be waking fully to wake you up (or you wont sleep as well since you will be waiting for the baby to wake up).<br><br>
i was never able to put my babies in another room. but i also think there is a safety issue with kids such a young age being in a room by themselves, alone. i usually kept hte babies sleeping with me for a few years, but my 8 yo still sleeps with me too, so it has varied.
 

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Even the (conservative mainstream) AAP recommends that babies sleep in the same room with their parents until at least 6 months of age, because research shows that the risk of SIDS is DRAMATICALLY reduced, by about 50%. The same effect is not seen when sharing a room with a sibling.
 
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