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we have 2 sons- a 5month old born at 32weeks who still has reflux/colic and a 26month old who never will go to bed. help!!! i am going to lose it here!!! My 5month old is gassy/fussy every night so it makes it harder. Almost every naptime and bedtime is misery. We have always nursed down (until 19months) or lay down with our toddler but he now kicks, talks, screams in bed. Mind you we have a lengthy bedtime routine with stories and songs. I have tried rewards-no help, time-outs-no help, and refusing to lay with him until he behaves. He will not stay in bed unless you lay with him or he is utterly worn out. Refusing to lay with him worked some. I am currently walking him back to bed with minimal talking every time until he is ready to behave. Occasionally I remind him that I will lay down with him when he is ready to l"ay quiet, still, and rest." ( I am not expecting a mummy here just no constant rolling and kicking. We are going on two hours of this and he has been either giggling, screaming "i can't" ", or crying most of the time. He is sometimes crying for hugs, etc which i sometimes give but only after we have reached the bed. is it rewarding him, i dunno. This is hard because I have not been a cio mom but his behavior has been difficult lately. He is a highly verbal, determined child and he has been testing where he can push us recently. Is this cio? I don't know but I know this is killing us. honestly, i have to recite some kind of mantra so i dont just squeeze him too hard. My dh and I are at the end of our ropes and honestly it is hurting our entire family life at this point-even the poor neglected dog who probably want a walk right now. ANY HELP!!!