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I'm lost. I am not quite sure if a two year old can really push buttons or if I am just being pregnant and moody. I am very careful to not use "Don't" with him since for most children (and adults) that is a huge green light. However he is making me a little crazy today, ok a lot<br>
for example. he took his brother's cup off the counter and came into the living room with it. I told him to please take it in the kitchen. he stood there, smiled at me and told me no. I then reinterated to take it in the kitchen, told him toI didnt want him to spill it. his response was to smile at me and dump the entire cup on the floor. i removed him from the room but not before I lost it and yelled at him, and my oldest DS about it.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/gloomy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Gloomy">: but oh my was I angry.<br>
so is he pushing my buttons or just being two?<br>
is there a better way to handle this. I cant keep him from grabbing cups off the counter. he is too tall and can reach it all. Im just not as fast as I use to be.<br><br>
how do I help him understand that this is NOT ok. I do not want to get into the battle of him dumping every cup he finds.
 

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I'm sorry today is so frustrating!<br><br>
Yes, this is just 2. He can hear you, but he can't really stop himself most of the time, and -- well, he's not old enough to understand what things upset you. Can you put cups in the sink? I have a tall 2-year-old too and that's what I do. (And mine can drag a stepstool around too, so I know what you're talking about! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> )
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I'm sorry today is so frustrating!<br><br>
Yes, this is just 2. He can hear you, but he can't really stop himself most of the time, and -- well, he's not old enough to understand what things upset you. Can you put cups in the sink? I have a tall 2-year-old too and that's what I do. (And mine can drag a stepstool around too, so I know what you're talking about! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> )</div>
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that is an idea I never even thought of. putting them in the sink! hmm.. I am going to guess he may still reach them but if he spills in the sink that isnt so bad. we too have stepstools in every room because I have an 8 year old who is VERY very short.<br>
2 is just such a fun and frustrating age.
 

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I do indeed believe that 2.5yo can push buttons.<br>
I have a pretty easy ds, but recently a few times I have noticed him pushing buttons. And I don't believe it's a matter of lacking impulse control in those particular situations. He's definitely doing things that aren't "ok" it to see what my reaction will be.<br>
I do assume the best of intentions. So I don't see this "testing" as "bad behavior" it seems normal 2.5yo to me. It just seems like a continuation of the experimenting scientist thing. lol<br><br>
So far, I've been able to deal with this testing in a low key and honest way, and it seems to keep everyone happy.<br><br>
The "waiting for a bus" type approach has been helpful.<br><a href="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/showthread.php?t=607003&highlight=waiting" target="_blank">http://www.mothering.com/discussions...hlight=waiting</a><br>
And also just looking at ds with surprise on my face that he would do whatever he was thinking of doing.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I do indeed believe that 2.5yo can push buttons.<br>
I have a pretty easy ds, but recently a few times I have noticed him pushing buttons. And I don't believe it's a matter of lacking impulse control in those particular situations. He's definitely doing things that aren't "ok" it to see what my reaction will be.<br>
I do assume the best of intentions. So I don't see this "testing" as "bad behavior" it seems normal 2.5yo to me. It just seems like a continuation of the experimenting scientist thing. lol<br><br>
So far, I've been able to deal with this testing in a low key and honest way, and it seems to keep everyone happy.<br><br>
The "waiting for a bus" type approach has been helpful.<br><a href="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/showthread.php?t=607003&highlight=waiting" target="_blank">http://www.mothering.com/discussions...hlight=waiting</a><br>
And also just looking at ds with surprise on my face that he would do whatever he was thinking of doing.</div>
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I try to do the actively waiting thing with all my kids. i just seem to be so short lately , for lack of a better way to put it. today sammy grabbed another cup off the table and stood there on the carpet. I just looked at him and told him,drinks at the table. he looked like he was going to dump it , but he didnt. I know because I over reacted to him last time, it has now become a game. Ughh.<br>
I dont know about the suprise on my face thing. DS and I play that way to often so I think he would do it, believing Im playing with him. KWIM?
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I do indeed believe that 2.5yo can push buttons.<br>
I have a pretty easy ds, but recently a few times I have noticed him pushing buttons. And I don't believe it's a matter of lacking impulse control in those particular situations. He's definitely doing things that aren't "ok" it to see what my reaction will be.<br>
I do assume the best of intentions. So I don't see this "testing" as "bad behavior" it seems normal 2.5yo to me. It just seems like a continuation of the experimenting scientist thing. lol<br><br>
So far, I've been able to deal with this testing in a low key and honest way, and it seems to keep everyone happy.<br><br>
The "waiting for a bus" type approach has been helpful.<br><a href="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/showthread.php?t=607003&highlight=waiting" target="_blank">http://www.mothering.com/discussions...hlight=waiting</a><br>
And also just looking at ds with surprise on my face that he would do whatever he was thinking of doing.</div>
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I think Becky's right on here -- the calmest approach possible is the one that will be the most likely to ensure this doesn't happen again.<br><br>
I do think with a 2.5 year old that the "waiting" will only go so far, though, and that you need to follow up with gentle physical removal of cup, or whatever. But that's just my kids. Only recently has the "waiting" really, really started working well with my almost four year old.
 
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