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So - I know that there is NO way to predict this, but I'm curious what you experienced Mammas think/guess.<br><br>
With DD my contractions started very very mild - within an hour or so we timed them. They were 1 min long and 3 min apart. They stayed that way for another 90 min. or so before we called the doc. By this time they were what I'd call decently strong.<br><br>
We get to the hospital - at this point it's been about 3 hours - cx are very strong - they've been 1 min long/3 min apart the whole time. I think I was about 4/5 cm dialated. (In hindsight, doula is guessing that I was dehydrated, leading to ineffective cx that are very close together.)<br><br>
At this point I get the epidural (bad idea) Everything screeches to a halt, of course, then a few hrs later, pitocin, can't feel to push, etc. 2 hrs of pushing (episotomy and vaccum) and baby is born.<br><br>
Probably about 9 hrs start to finish.<br><br>
So my question is this: Given that I'm doing NCB this time - what is your guess as to how long my labor will be? I want to labor at home as long as possible, but with regular cx 1 min long/3 min apart I also don't want to birth in my car. Was DD a fluke labor and this one will be my 40 hour labor?<br><br>
I'm 15-20 min from the hospital, I have a NCB-friendly OB and a doula.<br><br>
What's your guess? <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngtongue.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Stick Out Tongue">
 

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I refuse to guess about labors. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> Everyone is so very different and for me it took 3 births to finally figure out the method to my own deliveries!<br><br>
First birth was 39 hours long. 2nd was 12 hours long. Last one was 2 hours. And i finally realized . . . the length and amount and timing of contractions means diddly squat for me! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngtongue.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Stick Out Tongue"> I am slow out the gate and then everything hits fast and furious. For example my last birth i was at a 3 until 15 mins before i delivered her! But my entire active labor felt like transition! 2 of my 3 births have been homebirths, 1st was at the hospital withloads of interventions. But i think first births are just because you're learning a new work out <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin"><br><br>
I say listen to YOUR intuition. Listen to your body and when it says it's time to go . . .go!
 

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Yes, TRY not to compare...just listen to your body...like aka said.<br><br>
In my experience you can kind of expect the 2nd labor to be shorter, but, like you said, you can not count on this...<br><br>
My rule with clients is that when they can no longer converse through ctx, are starting to make noise...or sounds with ctx, and they are pretty close (3 min apartish) then I start heading over...that is usually when the partner calls cause she cant and he is getting concerned...so this would be a good time to head to the hospital right?
 

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Only read the thread title, but,<br><br>
NOOOOOOOOOOOO.<br><br>
1st labor, 6 hours, everything happened so fast.<br><br>
Second labor, 12 hours, very gradual.<br><br>
Try not to compare one to the other. Everything people say is just myth. in reality, Its all a crap shoot.
 

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Totally listen to your body on when the time is right to leave for the hospital. Every birth is so different.<br><br>
Ds1 was 24 1/2 hours,dd was 7 and ds2 was 1 hour and I am still not counting on this being shorter.
 

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I am interested to hear responses to this! For me, water broke to start labor and DS was born 8.75 hr later. I am thinking if water breaks again, it will be pretty fast. If water does not break to start labor, it should be longer - and gentler!<br><br>
I don't know what I "want". When it was fast, it was all hard labor, but it was over with! If it was slower, it would be gentler on my body, but then I'd have to do it longer.
 

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<span>all labours are different some women have quicker 2nd labours some have longer.<br>
my labours have been as follows<br>
1) 23 hrs<br>
2) 5 hrs<br>
3) 8 hrs<br>
4) 4 hrs</span>
 

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Another "listen to your body!" comment from me. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1"><br><br>
With DS, he was induced via AROM (evacuating for a hurricane, already 6 cm dilated). The broke my water but labor didn't start because he was posterior and high, he didn't descend until I got him to roll over. Once he rolled over and descended things went quick, labor was about 3 hours long.<br><br>
DD1 and DD2 - both times 2 hours and 10 minute from "maybe???" to baby.
 

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Mine have pretty much been all over the place....<br><br>
#1 over 24hrs, but about 8 hrs of "hard" labor<br>
#2 water broke, then spacey ctx for a day, by the time arrived at the hospital, took another 4 hrs.<br>
#3 induced/pit. 8 hrs.<br>
#4 induced/pit. 2 hrs.<br>
#5 4.5 hrs<br>
#6 8 hrs<br>
#7 2 hrs<br>
#8 8hrs<br><br>
So there you have it. from the looks of it,I alternate between 8 hrs and 2hrs...so that means this next one should be a short one...we'll see!
 

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My first was 25 hours from Water breaking to contractions on my own, then Pic added..... Water broke at 5am and i delivered at 6:09am<br><br>
My second was 12 hours. First contractions started at 12am, water broke on its own at 6:30am and I delivered at 12:10pm.<br><br>
I pushed for an hour with my first and 5 min with my second..............
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I am interested to hear responses to this! For me, water broke to start labor and DS was born 8.75 hr later. I am thinking if water breaks again, it will be pretty fast. If water does not break to start labor, it should be longer - and gentler!<br><br>
I don't know what I "want". When it was fast, it was all hard labor, but it was over with! If it was slower, it would be gentler on my body, but then I'd have to do it longer.</div>
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Water breaking may or may not spead up labour. My water never really broke (huge splash once the head was out) and my labour was only 2 hours long...not what I would call gentle.<br><br>
This whole second labours are faster thing is making me slighlty nervous given my history and my family history as well. My mother's labours were 4 hours, 1 hour (and I was posterior...) and 3 hours. My sister's labours were 4 hours and 2 hours. I just don't want to give birth at the grocery store or at the park or something. Then again, I don't know how I would react if I ended up with an 18 hour labour.
 

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Thanks so much for all this!<br><br>
It IS very interesting even though I know there is no way I can predict what will happen!!
 

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This thread is making me feel better. With DD I was induced at 38 weeks and prepared to go on forever, but my labor was about 5-6 hours. I didn't even need pitocin. And then I only pushed for 30 minutes or so. So I've been freaking out that I'm going to go into labor and the baby will come shooting out within minutes!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink">
 

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Labor is completely different depending on each pregnancy, baby, etc.<br><br><br>
DS1- water broke, 9 1/2 hours start to finish.<br>
DS2- Water didn't break until pushing. 12 hours 42 minutes<br>
DD1- Water didn't break till daughter was out to her shoulders. 18 hours. (I didn't know I was in labor until about 11 hours before she was born because it was I thought it was just cramps from something I'd eaten that didn't agree with me. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin"> )
 

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My first labor was 23 hours from first contraction for delivery. My midwife said I should expect this labor to be half that. I'm totally down for that-- not to fast, not too slow.<br><br>
We shall see...
 

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DD-36.5 hours-Pit induced @ 39 weeks<br>
DS1-39 hrs-Early Labor for about 2 weeks- pit induced once labor stalled at 5cm<br>
DS2-12 hours-Early Labor for about a month- Only one I went into labor without intervention<br><br>
This one, I'm dilating/effacing slowly..Tons and Tons of ctx..Yippeeee! Although I certainly will NOT complain if I go into labor on my own again..Ill take that over pit any-day!<br><br>
My water never broke on it's own, once the docs broke it, it was about 3 hours or so before I delivered. My ctx also never got to less than 10 min apart. with DS2 I got to the hospital at 7cm and a bulging bag of water (which they broke) and delivered 3 hours later. I only KNEW it was time to go because I was feeling like I had to poo and kept going into the bathroom, at 1 point I wiped and felt something round coming out of my who-who. The ctx were painful but nothing I couldnt focus through..but after 2 pit inductions I think I expected the pain to be a lot worse since pit makes the ctx about 100 times worse<br><br>
I hope this time I have a more definitive clue since I live an hour away from the hospital and it will take 30-45 min for my mom to get out here..But as for a pattern, I am not sure since the first 2 were induced..if I go on my own again as long as I don't deliver in my moms car, its all good!
 

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About the same give or take a couple hours. There are really too many variables and not enough of a history to make even an educated guess.<br>
It took a good 6 or 7 birth before I felt I had a pretty predictable pattern and even then I know all it will take is a baby in a slightly 'off' presentation or a much larger or smaller baby and I could have a whole different experience from what I am used to.
 

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My 1s labor was 10 hours<br>
2nd 4hours<br>
3rd 1.5<br>
4th 45 mins<br><br>
So for me personally they get quicker and quicker
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I am interested to hear responses to this! For me, water broke to start labor and DS was born 8.75 hr later. I am thinking if water breaks again, it will be pretty fast. If water does not break to start labor, it should be longer - and gentler!<br><br>
I don't know what I "want". When it was fast, it was all hard labor, but it was over with! If it was slower, it would be gentler on my body, but then I'd have to do it longer.</div>
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I've only had one, so I can't comment on duration of labor for a second. But I did want to say that water breaking doesn't necessarily speed things up. My water broke with DS at 11pm on the 1sy of August. He wasn't born till 9am on the 3rd of August...a long and very slow labor, until the last two hours! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink">
 
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