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Hi Mommas!<br>
I heard the heartbeat! I heard the heartbeat!<br>
The midwife had to go on a bit of hunt for the little shimp but found it and we heard it briefly. A Huge sigh of relief<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/biggrinbounce.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="bgbounce"><br>
DH was with me but I'm not getting the feeling he's excited <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/headscratch.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="headscratch">. I know he's excited in general but I thought this would make it more real for him and less surreal. Perhaps he's still digesting the concept. I know he's anxious, as am I, to now tell our family. It may also be that the midwife confirmed that I be able to do the kind of work I do for a living in a few weeks. (hard to discribe here but involves wearing and carrying heavy equipment). I'm freelance and not working right now but I will have to find some kind of work. It may be this bit of info that took DH out of the moment. I'm nervous too but I'm not going to worry about it. I'll find something.... I hope<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment"><br><br>
Anyhow, I just needed to share! Thanks!
 

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Congrats on the hearbeat! How exciting!<br><br>
I hope you find great work soon!
 

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Yay! I bet DH will come around. I know mine was really nervous at many points during my first pregnancy, and it came across to me as not very excited. I had to actually point out what a downer he was being to get him to start showing a little enthusiasm (but, um, I'm a pretty direct person <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> ).
 

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Whoo-hoo!<br><br>
I have the most wonderful supportive dh in the WORLD (sorry, straight ladies; he's MINE!) but during our first pregnancy together, it was a <i>really</i> abstract thing for him and he never really got into it much...<br><br>
My theory is that it's a CONSTANT thing for us - like 24/7/365 (well, it FEELS like 365 days at LEAST) we are aware of this thing growing inside us. For guys, they need to stop and remind themselves from time to time that they're pregnant. It's not as real for many of them, no matter how cool they are with it.<br><br>
I should add that the second dd2 was in dh's arms, she was unequivocally HIS and HIS FOREVER. They are so bonded it's not funny. So I don't worry much about the prenatal stuff; it's the lifetime of parenting <i>after</i> the baby arrives that counts.<br><br>
I say this also bc dh#1 was SO fabulous when I was pregnant - totally the perfect, thrilled, tummy-holding, baby-bragging, fetal-development type of dad... until he left 3 months after our dd was born :-(((<br><br>
If I had to choose - well, I think I know which I'd choose.
 

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Thanks Ladies! DH wrote me a cute text message today, sying he was glad I had two heartbeats. It made me cry when I read it.
 

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very sweet!
 

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My theory is that it's a CONSTANT thing for us - like 24/7/365 (well, it FEELS like 365 days at LEAST) we are aware of this thing growing inside us. For guys, they need to stop and remind themselves from time to time that they're pregnant. It's not as real for many of them, no matter how cool they are with it.<br></div>
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I agree with this completely. I was concerned during my first pregnancy because dh didn't seem to "get it." He was amazing at the birth and fell madly in love with our son the second he saw him. I think he bonded initially better than I did. He would tear up every time he held him.<br><br>
I thought he would be more excited about the pregnancy this time around, but he acts about the same. I know he'll be wonderful once the baby is born.<br><br>
Congratulations! How fun to hear your little one for the first time.
 
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