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Should I be worried???<br><br>
My 3.5 y/o has not been herself for atleast 2 months! She will not respond to her name but only to her alter ego's names...sometimes Cindy and sometimes Emily. She has about 2 outfits for each girl and will ONLY wear those if she is the appropriate character. I keep asking her when she will be herself again and she said not until Thanksgiving<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/confused.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Confused">: There was another time that she was supposed to be herself about a month ago but it came and went with no sign of my dd returning.<br><br>
I have always encouraged imaginitive play, dressing up and make believe. She is always encouraged to dress in what she prefers but it has been months and I want my dd back!<br><br>
Funny tho, her new names are rolling off my tongue more easily now, just have to think for a second before speaking, take note of which outfit she is wearing.<br><br>
Recently she has included her 20m/o sister in the game, giving her names to go along with hers. What kind of confusion is she going to suffer...lol.<br><br>
I do treat her alter egos with respect but every once in a while I throw in "I sure would like to have Delaney back again"<br><br>
So what do you think, is this healthy, is it an outlet for her and should I try to figure out why she is developing other personalities? How long can it go on?<br><br>
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Sounds normal to me. My daughter isn't nearly as thorough in her pretend play, but heaven forbid I refer to her as "Baby Puppy" when she is pretending to be "Baby Froggy" or even "Daughter Puppy" <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/rolleyes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="rolleyes">: My best friend's daughter went off to Junior Kindergarten at the age of 3.75 occasionally answering only to "Dr. Gordon" or "Ms. Frizzle". I don't know how the teacher handled the situation, but I know she didn't have special clothes to provide a clue as to what her name was each day.<br><br>
I'm sure she'll grow out of this but I can understand how tiresome it would be for you!
 

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Are you writing about this time in a journal????? Do it!!! Your dd is really into the details. It will be good reading for her when she is older....wonder if she will be an actor or writer????<br>
My dd has a different names/characters every day, but usually by the end of the day, she decides that she is herself again.<br>
Do you ever just ask, "How come you like to be Emily?" "How about Delaney?"....I would think this is a phase....let us know after Thanksgiving<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin">
 

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I can relate! My dd changes her character and subsequently, my character and her sister's character throughout the day!<br>
At breakfast, I could be mama dinosaur and she is daughter dinosaur...by lunch she is Mr. Rogers and I am Mr. McPheely....and then at dinner my dh is daddy bear and she is little bear.<br>
It is sometimes hilarious to me and sometimes a little frustrating and sometimes downright annoying.<br>
I don't think it is troublesome...I think some children just have very active imaginations...more than others. I have noticed that she often uses her characters to bring up things that are on her mind...so that's a good thing. And then we talk about it and it helps. Sometimes..I think it's just her funny, imaginative personality.
 

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My daughter does this too. This week was the first time I called her "Lilo" and was told "No, I'm Annabelle". I've spent a lot of time this week being Mama Teacher and my DD being Student Annabelle (you can tell because she runs to her desk and raises her hand to tell me something).
 

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Heh. We've got that here too. Well, not as complete, but my dd has two alter egos. Lucy and Samantha. Though often Lucy and Samantha are invisible friends and sometimes they are her dd's or her friends. She is constantly telling strangers in the park that she has a brother named Owen and a sister named Lucy <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/rolleyes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="rolleyes">: When she puts her toy glasses on she's Samantha. I have to say I like Samantha. She's quite the little lady. Very polite <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin">
 
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