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My DS is 3.5 and I've been SAHM since his birth. He's never been to daycare or pre-school. He also loves children, he always plays with them really nicely at the playground, talks about them and also enjoys spending time alone with his daddy taking long walks and doing activities together. I'm just adding this to show that though he has a strong attachment to me, it's not like it's a problem for him to spend time away from me.<br><br>
Last year we went to a mom and kids class and this year I signed him up for two classes for three year olds and up. One is the continuation of the class we went to last year. The other is new, and it's a music class, and he loves music (listening and playing, singing). The classes are for kids only, moms drop them off at the door. This was his third week, the first two weeks he would talk about not wanting to go to class, but when I brought him there he just ran off without saying good-bye happy as can be. I know a certain amount of separation anxiety is in order and I know that he may also genuinely not enjoy the classes.<br><br>
Anyhow, we went to his music class today and he just would not let me leave. I stayed for ten minutes after the class began, I promised him to pick him up early, I tried to get him involved and he just refused to get involved, he just wouldn't budge. So I took him out of the class and talked to him in the hall and he still refused to go, even after he heard them playing with tambourines and singing songs he knew and liked.<br><br>
I just don't know how much his refusal is genuine dislike of the class and how much is just him wanting not to part with me today. I'll be honest here and say that I've been really enjoying the 1 hour to myself to go for a walk or grocery shop in peace, or just read.<br><br>
Any tips, advice, experience?
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">My DS is 3.5 and I've been SAHM since his birth. He's never been to daycare or pre-school. He also loves children, he always plays with them really nicely at the playground, talks about them and also enjoys spending time alone with his daddy taking long walks and doing activities together. I'm just adding this to show that though he has a strong attachment to me, it's not like it's a problem for him to spend time away from me.<br><br>
Last year we went to a mom and kids class and this year I signed him up for two classes for three year olds and up. One is the continuation of the class we went to last year. The other is new, and it's a music class, and he loves music (listening and playing, singing). The classes are for kids only, moms drop them off at the door. This was his third week, the first two weeks he would talk about not wanting to go to class, but when I brought him there he just ran off without saying good-bye happy as can be. I know a certain amount of separation anxiety is in order and I know that he may also genuinely not enjoy the classes.<br><br>
Anyhow, we went to his music class today and he just would not let me leave. I stayed for ten minutes after the class began, I promised him to pick him up early, I tried to get him involved and he just refused to get involved, he just wouldn't budge. So I took him out of the class and talked to him in the hall and he still refused to go, even after he heard them playing with tambourines and singing songs he knew and liked.<br><br>
I just don't know how much his refusal is genuine dislike of the class and how much is just him wanting not to part with me today. I'll be honest here and say that I've been really enjoying the 1 hour to myself to go for a walk or grocery shop in peace, or just read.<br><br>
Any tips, advice, experience?</div>
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My 3 year old has not been a firey ball of participation either, and since about 3 years 3 months (around April) he has not been willing to go to any classes that do not involve me there (except I did "buy" his participation in swim team this summer by offering him a DVD he wanted for participating in team through the first meet, so he could see if he liked it. Thereafter he got his DVD and was done with it. In his case it is MAINLY not wanting an outside authority telling him what to do -- he wants maximum freedom. It is also a desire to be with mom, but I think that's definitely down the list from the authority issue.<br><br>
As a 2.5 year old to that point he did gymnastics independently from me with satisfaction, and would ask about participating in other classes with his sister, like dance, but he was too young.<br><br>
3.5 is a trying age. However I save a bundle on activity classes.
 
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