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Ok, I am certain that someone has asked this very question before, but I can't find it.<br><br>
We are pretty lucky with DS... he is 3 months old, and for the most part, sleeps through the night (for now!), getting up once or (rarely) twice to eat. No big deal.<br><br>
My problem, then? Our bed is a pillowtop, and DH and I are both chunky... so there is a definite dip in the mattress. Yeah, not so safe. So we sidecarred a crib... which would be awesomely amazing and wonderful, except that the only place DS wants to be is in that horrible crack between the bed mattress and the crib mattress (aka, as close to me as possible). I stuffed a rolled up towel in there, but no matter what I do, there is a dip. He is also a snuggler - it is tough to get him to sleep without someone right there... we generally just roll/sneak away when he is asleep.<br><br>
DS is just to that age where he is not quite rolling over, but he can inch-worm scoot like a champ. Last night, he was in his crib and I was sitting at the computer 20 feet away listening for him (he is always up and down for the first 30-45 minutes or so at bedtime)... I heard him make a noise and went in: There he is, fully on his FACE in the crack. Cue heart attack! He was sleeping on his side, and I figured he just rolled into the crack accidentally.<br><br>
Ok, live and learn, right? I put him mostly on his back for the rest of the night, in the middle of the crib mattress, and leave my arm there leaning up against him so he can't roll onto his face... but what happens? That's right. I wake up at 3am and my baby is face down in the crack again. Thank heavens for that crazy mom's intuition, because he didn't make a peep.<br><br>
This is not good. Buying a new bed mattress is not an option. I feel like the only safe thing to do is to put the side back on the crib and leave it right next to our bed. We tried the bassinet/cosleeper option, and DS will not have it. I don't think the mattress is comfortable in his bassinet. Not to mention the fact that he really does not sleep well for the second half of the night (in particular) unless he is in full body contact with me.<br><br>
How do I get my kid to sleep in his crib without being snuggled? I have no idea how "normal" people put their kids down in the crib and have them sleep? Is there some other option I am not thinking of?
 

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Having him sleep in the crook of your arm is safe for him. Have you considered getting a bed rail and just keeping him in the bed with you?<br>
Maybe you can get some good information here? <a href="http://www.naturalchild.org/james_mckenna/biological.html" target="_blank">http://www.naturalchild.org/james_mc...iological.html</a>
 

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<a href="http://www.freewebs.com/sidecarcrib/" target="_blank">This link</a> might give you some ideas to solve the crack issue.<br><br>
As for better sleeping... we decided at about 2-3 weeks to let DD2 sleep on her stomach. That helped a lot! If you aren't comfortable with that I'm pretty sure that even the most die hard 'back to sleepers' are okay with stomach sleeping once babe can roll over on his own. That might not be too far away for you now!
 

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She doesn't want him in the bed with her because of the pillow top mattress, I believe.<br><br>
OP, I'm in the same boat. We have a one month old and a memory foam pillow top mattress. We just bought it a few months ago (I'm a first time mom, it just never occurred to me that a baby would refuse to sleep where I put her!), so getting a new mattress is not an option.<br><br>
She refuses to sleep in the crib side carred to the bed. We've tried putting her on her side, we've tried putting her on a positioner wedge thing. Nope.<br><br>
She demands to sleep on my chest.<br><br>
It's okay for now but she's gaining weight fast and soon she's going to be a lot of weight on my chest!!!<br><br>
But then once we get her in the crib it will bring up your issue... the crack.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">She doesn't want him in the bed with her because of the pillow top mattress, I believe.<br><br>
OP, I'm in the same boat. We have a one month old and a memory foam pillow top mattress. We just bought it a few months ago (I'm a first time mom, it just never occurred to me that a baby would refuse to sleep where I put her!), so getting a new mattress is not an option.<br><br>
She refuses to sleep in the crib side carred to the bed. We've tried putting her on her side, we've tried putting her on a positioner wedge thing. Nope.<br><br>
She demands to sleep on my chest.<br><br>
It's okay for now but she's gaining weight fast and soon she's going to be a lot of weight on my chest!!!<br><br>
But then once we get her in the crib it will bring up your issue... the crack.</div>
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I understand the pillow top concern which is why I suggested reading what Dr. Mckenna has to say. He backs it up with reasearch and gives information on safe bed sharing.<br><br>
I'm not a medical professional so I didn't feel comfortable going right out and saying her bed is perfectly fine but I had a pillowtop mattress with all 3 of my children and coslept with them all until they were 2. Well, I'm actually still sharing my bed with my youngest who is 5 but that's because I have no room for another bed!
 

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i would put db in the bed with me.<br><br>
i had firm beds with both and they only slept in the crook of my arm, latched on most of the night. by the time they slept a foot away and not wrapped in my arm, they were more than old enough to be safe even if the bed was a bit cushy.<br><br>
what about one of those things thats like a little separate bed you put on your mattress...is that a snuggle nest or somethign like that? maybe you'd feel more confident with that?
 

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OP- a snugglenest might work well as long as your pillowtop isn't TOOOO squishy. And if your LO isn't too big for it already. Ours was bordering on too squishy, but if she'd sleep anywhere but on me, I think it would've worked out okay.
 
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