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What are 3 things you want to do differently this pregnancy/birth/baby?<br><br>
I want to try and enjoy this whole experience, even the first trimester, which I always wish away, as it will be my last.<br><br>
I want to try to continue working out this time... I got too tired and unmotivated last time around.<br><br>
I want to ignore everyone's comments about the way I do things: pregnancy, homebirth, cosleeping, babywearing...
 

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My first 2 things are probably the same as yours. I'm pretty good at the last one by now. Having twins at home and raising them my way pretty much gave people the STFU sign so no one says anything to me anymore about that kind of stuff. They just think I'm nuts and that's just fine with me.<br><br>
In addition to working out, I'll add that I don't want to fall for the junk food cravings in the last trimester. That's when I always pack on the pounds so I'd like to avoid that and continue my healthy eating all the way through.<br><br>
My third is not letting the stress of dealing with my ex and his wife affect this pregnancy like it did my last one. I had a lot of spotting and early contractions because I would let stuff make me so mad, but this time I'm going to be totally ommmmm about it <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/namaste.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Namaste">
 

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Have a midwife<br><br>
Have a homebirth<br><br>
Exercise consistently
 

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This is #2.<br><br>
I gained 60lbs last time...I do NOT want to do that. Granted we were both healthy & I lost it all plus a couple more lbs.<br><br>
Be more active-morning/afternoon/night sickness got me unmotivated w/ exercise.<br><br>
Maybe go drug-free during birth.
 

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avoid a c-section (I want a vbac)<br><br>
eat better and not gain 45 pounds like I did with the last one<br><br>
hire a doula<br><br>
I am adding a 4th - let other people's comments roll off my back
 

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I like this thread <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
I want to exercise continually, along with eating well.<br><br>
I want to feel confident enough in my birthing abilities to invite my SILs and Mom to my homebirth. Last one was just me, DH, doula and midwife.<br><br>
I'd love to figure out a cure for my over-supply so that nursing can be an enjoyable experience for me and the baby.<br><br><br>
I really hope we all get what we wish for!!!
 

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1. Really enjoy my pregnancy and newborn experience, as this will likely be my last.<br><br>
2. Keep away from consumer baby culture. Only buy what we really must have for baby.<br><br>
3. Stick with going to yoga twice per week, although it nearly killed me tonight.
 

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I want to have a true midwife this time (not hospital midwife)<br><br>
Take a hypnobirthing or hypnobabies class to help with relaxation during labor<br><br>
Medication free water birth
 

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I would like to not gain 70 pounds this time. I lost 40 pounds last year and I would like to keep it off.<br><br>
I would like to attempt a VBAC<br><br>
If the VBAC doesn't happen I won't let it spiral me into a horrible depression like I did last time.
 

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Because my HBAC was so awesome, I am hard put for things to do differently... that would have been what I was trying to do that time, was everything differently from the induction-cesarean I had the first time, and I did succeed.<br><br>
So here are 3 things I would like to do the same again:<br>
1. Send my DH on an errand when he gets scared while I am laboring. That was a great idea and gave me time and space to experience joy and privacy during active labor.<br><br>
2. Make pies the day before, and turkey the day of, the birth. I popped a turkey in the oven in the wee hours, and we had a feast afterward, and no one had to cook for a week.<br><br>
3. Eat my placenta. Yes, placentophagy changed my whole postpartum experience for the better, and I am so glad I was brave enough to try it, and would never dream of being without it again. No, I am not kidding. It wasn't cooked, but was frozen, and made into blender drinks masked with other things.<br><br>
I am still trying to think of anything I would do differently, and I can't.
 

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Oh, I finally thought of what I would do differently, and that is let my mother come over to help! She helped DH with the housework all right, but then was practically vibrating with worry and nervous tension when she naturally wanted to come up to see me and the baby, and ended up getting me all upset over whether my milk was coming it, whether the baby was alright, and it took calling my midwife to come check on me to comb the snakes from my hair.<br><br>
Next time, NOBODY gets in for at least the first week, except the midwife if I need her. Nobody else, not my mom, not my FIL, no matter how much it may bother them to be denied. I am very vulnerable and easily spooked at that time, and need only calm assurance, not people who are trying to hide that they are freaking out on the inside.
 

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Three things to do differently<br>
1. Eat as healthy as I did last time but without the extra treats- at least not as much 'treats'<br>
2. Homebirth (after cesarean- wahoo!)<br>
3. CLOTH DIAPER<br><br>
And three things I want to do the same<br>
1. Reiki my womb and baby in the morning<br>
2. Kundalini prenatal yoga DVD w/Gurmukh<br>
3. Breastfeed!<br><br>
And something kind of materialistic- I want to have really cute clothes this time around. Not just clothes I have left from when I was heavier. Last pregnancy I bought 2 maternity pants and 2 maternity tops- that's it! Not this time <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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i am in agreement with crunchynerd.<br>
As this is my 5th I have had lots of opportunity to perfect my birthing experience.<br><br>
-I will be having a different midwife as mine is unavailable in Jan but the midwife I will be using has been at my last 2 births, knows us, and knows what we expect.<br>
-I will labor and birth in water<br>
-I will definately consume the placenta again as I have done it 2x now and it is amazing.<br>
-I will spend 3-4 days w/out getting out of bed (I have done that the last 2x as well). It gives me a time to heal and to get to know my baby w/out all of chaos of our busy lives.<br>
-I would like to start ec right away this time (last time dd was 8 days), we'll see how that goes.<br><br>
There really isn't anything I want to change.
 

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1. Enjoy every minute of the pregnancy and not be worried that something could go wrong.<br><br>
2. Birth at home (hopefully in the water).<br><br>
3. EC instead of CD.<br><br>
I am actively fending off worried thoughts of how my DS will fare during the transition from only child to brother. I am trying to spend each moment being grateful of this miracle of life and not "plan" too much.
 
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