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Ds1 seems to have forgotten how to nurse, all of a sudden! He turned 3 a couple of months ago and has only been nursing once a day (first thing in the morning) for the past several months. Tuesday am he nursed as usual, and then Wednesday when he woke up, he seemed to have no idea how to latch on and suck! We tried again about 1/2 hour later and same thing. Then the same thing again Thursday and Friday morning, and this morning, he started asking to nurse and dh said something about how he didn't seem to remember how to do it the last few days and that ds had just been having cuddles with mommy instead of nursing. Ds totally didn't pursue it after that, he was basically like "oh, yeah" and went off to do something else.<br><br>
So..... is this weaning? He has never skipped more than one day of nursing before and even skipping one day has only happened twice in his life. He was always VERY enthusiastic about nursing so it is kind of weird for me to think that he might be done! But, I am okay with it too, because to be honest I've been feeling kind of done with it for awhile too. But I didn't want to really encourage him to wean b/c he still seemed to really need it - he's had a pretty rough time adjusting to having a sibling and has had lots of behavioural issues and stuff, so I did not want to push it. If he has decided he is done then I guess that is good. Is it common for kids to suddenly "forget" how to nurse?
 

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my ds recently forgot how to latch, though it was a slightly longer interval - we were nursing every 1-3 days, and that was fine, but he had forgotten how to latch on to the right side, and could only latch on the left. one day i offered the right, he tried it, couldn't latch, and that was all he wanted. by the next time we nursed, it had been a week since he'd nursed on the side he could latch on, and suddenly he couldn't do it. he's tried about a dozen times since then and hasn't really been able to latch - he did once for about 10 seconds, but then hasn't been able to again.<br><br>
i also would be happy if he was ok with being weaned now... and he does seem mostly ok with it... but he does keep asking every few days, so he must have some desire for it still - i wish i could just nurse him occasionally like that... i do let him try, but i think he would find it more fulfilling if he could actually latch!
 

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DD started forgetting how to latch properly while she was nursing once a day. She took a couple week break and tried to nurse and couldn't remember how to at all. She hasn't nursed since. Her latch started declining around 3 and she weaned at 3.5.
 

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DD1 forgot how to latch when she was 3 as well, we spent many months with her just latching on but nothing else. She is 4 now and still asks once in a great while but has no idea what to do. I consider her weaned now. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad">
 

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The same thing happened to us around 3. DS#1 would sometimes skip a day and sometimes 2 days. He did this for awhile but then all of a sudden didn't remember how to latch after it had been a few days. He did try and it was hurting so I asked him to stop for a minute and try again and he didn't want to and started playing.
 

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Forgetting how to latch is the child's body telling him it's time to stop nursing. The child may not be able to interpret this information correctly so the mother can redirect him to other activities when he asks to nurse. I would still consider this CLW because it the child's body giving the signal to stop.
 
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