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I have an almost 4 year old daughter. I've tried really hard to practice GD w/her. Lately, she's started this whole new thing where our exchanges go like this:<br><br>
Me, after telling her to do something close to 5 TIMES, I'll say:<br><br>
B, if you don't want do ____ then you can go to your room.<br><br>
B: If <span style="text-decoration:underline;">YOU</span> don't want to let me do _____ (what she was doing) then <span style="text-decoration:underline;">YOU</span> go to <span style="text-decoration:underline;">YOUR</span> room!<br><br>
I'm trying to accurately paint a portrait of one our exchanges but I can't right now. It's like she talks to me like a peer, not her mother. Like she doesn't get that I'm in charge. Basically, she will say things to me, that I say to her. Like "when you say that to me it makes ME MAD!!!!!" I don't yell it though. I will say something like, "B when you talk to me that way it hurts my feelings, or makes me sad" or "when you pull my hair it hurts and makes me angry".<br><br>
It feels like to me she is getting angry over me telling her what to do, when she doesn't want to do it. Then she yells, shoves me, tells me to go to my room. If she wants something that I have, for example, she'll say "give that to me!", and I"ll say "excuse me? is that how you ask for something?" and then she'll give some other smarta&^ comment.<br><br>
A friend has implied that this is because I'm not strict enough. That parents can't be both friends and parental figures. That my dd shouldn't talk to me that way (and I agree). I just don't know what to do about it, gently.
Me, after telling her to do something close to 5 TIMES, I'll say:<br><br>
B, if you don't want do ____ then you can go to your room.<br><br>
B: If <span style="text-decoration:underline;">YOU</span> don't want to let me do _____ (what she was doing) then <span style="text-decoration:underline;">YOU</span> go to <span style="text-decoration:underline;">YOUR</span> room!<br><br>
I'm trying to accurately paint a portrait of one our exchanges but I can't right now. It's like she talks to me like a peer, not her mother. Like she doesn't get that I'm in charge. Basically, she will say things to me, that I say to her. Like "when you say that to me it makes ME MAD!!!!!" I don't yell it though. I will say something like, "B when you talk to me that way it hurts my feelings, or makes me sad" or "when you pull my hair it hurts and makes me angry".<br><br>
It feels like to me she is getting angry over me telling her what to do, when she doesn't want to do it. Then she yells, shoves me, tells me to go to my room. If she wants something that I have, for example, she'll say "give that to me!", and I"ll say "excuse me? is that how you ask for something?" and then she'll give some other smarta&^ comment.<br><br>
A friend has implied that this is because I'm not strict enough. That parents can't be both friends and parental figures. That my dd shouldn't talk to me that way (and I agree). I just don't know what to do about it, gently.