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hope this is the right forum to post in! everything's going fine with my daughter, she's at 30 months right now. she's way ahead in so many things. except potty learning, she showed signs of curiosity at 13 months, so i got her a potty, she still loves it. i don't hassle her about it at all, i just assumed she'd do it when she's ready, as long as she had the resources available (she has pull-ups and underpants, picked out an Elmo potty DVD she likes, etc.). but ... nothing! i know she loves being babied during diapering, so i'm babying her at other times during the day, we're enjoying the closeness. she doesn't resist sitting on the potty, she loves to read there ... then she stands up and pees down her leg a minute later *lol* or, she squats to poop in her diaper, i ask her if she needs to go, she yells "NO! i'm NOT pooping!" even though she is.<br><br>
any ideas? advice? i don't want to push her. but there's a Waldorf preschool near me she can get a scholarship to, and their guideline is 2.5 years for having potty basics. when we attended an AP playgroup center, all the other kids were pottying and she seemed a bit angry and squatted in the corner. i've tried all the "tricks" from Dr. Sears, and "Becoming the Parent You Want to Be" ... at this point i'm totally lost <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad">
 

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DS was the same way, for us it was just much easier to let him do it on his own, which wasn't until 38 months. He completely learned within a week and only had two accidents thereafter. I know that is not really encouraging, I would ask what the pre-school considers potty basics, IMO chances are if she attends and sees all of the other kids and their potty skills that she will decide to join in.
 

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the one person i talked to at the preschool was a bit vague about the "basics" but strongly hinted that a child her age should be at least peeing in the potty. i mean, in a tone of voice to where i felt guilty/ashamed. ugh. i don't want to pass on that attitude to my babe, and i'll forego preschool - even if it is Waldorf - rather than force her to do something she isn't ready for. i just feel so lost, like i'm doing something wrong, maybe she's rebelling, who knows? eep!
 

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I don't think you're doing anything wrong. I think children who use the potty at such a "late" age just skip over the learning phase and just start doing it one day, when they are ready, like the pp said, in one week her child could do it. If your DD had been going through a gradual learning process from 13 months till now you would have had a LOT of pee and poop to clean up off the floor every day. (like I did with Benji. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/innocent.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="shy">) You're just skipping over all that mess, that's all. When she's ready I bet it will be quick and easy. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 
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