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We've only been charting and really "trying" for 2 months now, but I'm already doubting our chances. I'm under lots of stress from work and school, I'm overweight, and I'm 39 and only been pregnant once (miscarriage last fall).<br><br>
I had an appointment with an OB who specializes in "advanced maternal age" but I'm cancelling it, because I feel a little ridiculous going to her only having seriously tried for two months. (Also I can't get away from work.)<br><br>
What's the general rule about how long to try before seeking medical help? I'm also loath to start working with docs because of a friend (also with stressful job and overweight) who spent $$$$$ on infertility treatments that didn't work. She is so sad - her husband won't even consider adopting.<br><br>
Sorry for venting -
 

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I had a post all written out to you and MDC ate in when the server was too busy <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/banghead.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="banghead"><br>
Anyway, they say if you have been having unprotected sex for one year and haven't gotten PG you are infertile. That number changes over 30 or 35 I can't remember but it goes down to 6 months of trying.<br>
That said we had unprotected sex for just short af ayear after DH had his reversal before I got PG with my youngest. I found out 1 day before I t urned 39. We would like another and haven't used protection since he was born which is 3.5 years ago. We have been charting and ttc since early this year. Jan Feb time frame. I don't put much stock in statistics. As I have never been average in any area of my life. LOL<br>
One of the moms from the 40+ TTC thread just found out she is PG and I think she is 45. We have had 3 others graduate to the Due date club this year as well. So there is certainly hope. I know at least half of the four mentioned didn't do anything unnatural to acheive their pregnancies.<br>
Do you have a link to your chart?
 

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Here is a link to the 40+ thread why don't you join us. You are close enough to 40 <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><a href="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/showthread.php?t=432311" target="_blank">http://www.mothering.com/discussions...d.php?t=432311</a>
 

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But before I join - how do I upload the charts - we're printing paper ones? Or is there a website where you can chart online?
 

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You can go to fertilityfriend dot com. there is 45 days free I believe ..or i also like ibabydust dot com.
 

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fertile thoughts is another good one. Buck up, Bach4Babies! Or go over to the 40+ thread to see there are several women who are older than you and who've had children well over 40 (myself, first baby at 41 closing in on 42 for example) and with varying situations. No, two months isn't very long comparatively but there's no reason you shouldn't start to gather as much info as you can. I don't think a good doctor would blink if you said, I'm 39 and I want to get the show on the road as soon as possible, can you help me. I think there is a lot of pressure on older women but the thing to do is to look at it as a glass half full instead of half empty thing i.e., you're not over 45, which I am, and I'm trying to have another one. Over on the 40+ thread you'll feel young, which is the trick.<br><br>
Sorry for the bad cliches.
 
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