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My 3yo dd would stay at home all the time if she could. I try to take her to the library for storytime, or to the park, etc, and she says she just wants to stay home. Is anyone else's 3 yo like this? When ds was her age, we'd go out and do lots of things.
 

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My oldest son was the shyest, most introverted child I have ever seen. I would take him to the little playplaces and the park and to all the places other people and children could be found, and he hated them. He wanted to sit at my side all day. I always thought the other moms thought my kid was a little freak. He was like that until he was about 10 or 11.<br><br>
Now he's 14, and I'm worried because he's always gone, participating in some club or activity or hanging out with friends. The only way I could keep him by my side is if I tied him to the chair!
 

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My ds is an introvert, and loves home the best too <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> It doesn't bother dh and I, since we are the same way. Ds tends to shut down and ask to go home if I take him out to more than one or two "social activities" a week (like library storytimes, toddler gyms, playgroups, or other things that are busy with kids). He'd much rather go to the park with me (the little one I know of, not the huge one overrun with kids), build a gigantic snowman with dh, share a story with somebody, or paint quietly by himself.<br><br>
My mom is an extrovert, and I know that my introverted behavior used to concern her (and caused her to force me into social situations). Personally, I don't agree with that. I just listen to my ds, if he asks to go home from a fun activity, I assume that he's getting too much of a good thing.
 

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Thanks to both of you for sharing your experiences with me.<br><br>
Falcon--it occurred to me today while we were playing that this is a classic introvert thing. My son is an extrovert, and I'm right on the line between the two so it's easy for me to relate to both of them. She loves to play with her friends, and can be very loud sometimes, but she gets kind of overwhelmed by situations where there are lots of people, and doesn't seem to have any need for doing toddler classes (except mom and me gymnastics, maybe because I'm with her, and it's completely for fun--not like dance, where there was more pressure--ridiculous, because they're 3 yo, but I digress).<br><br>
RB--That's really funny about your son! And interesting, too. I guess it goes to show that sometimes we parents worry for nothing (who, me? <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> ).<br><br>
Oh yeah, and we did end up going to the park today with the little toddler I baby-sit. She had a blast! But then again, we were the only ones there <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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My 3.5 YO wants to stay home all the time. She will go to some places like the mall, grocery store, friends house etc. Although even that can be a challenge to get her dressed and out.<br>
I think it all started this fall. I had her in a 2 hr/week drop off. Let's just say it didn't go well at all. She hated her teacher and I took her out after 5 weeks.<br>
She also had major surgery a couple of months ago.<br><br>
But she is well past all that and still wants to stay home.<br>
I have her in Gymboree now. And even though I'm there, she still says she wants to go home.<br><br>
She tells me she loves her home. Which is fine. Except she never wants to leave it. I'm afraid she's developing an anxiety.<br>
It does make me feel better that others here are having the same issue.<br><br>
But what worries me is that she is an extreme extrovert only in certain cercumstances, while before it was all the time.<br>
I'm rambling...But yes, I'm experiencing this too. And it's frustrating.
 

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Maple Leaf, I have similar concerns. I was finishing my degree last fall and needed childcare, and it was her first time. She loved her teachers, but talked a lot about how she missed me, how sad she was that I wasn't home, etc. She seems over this as well, and is not in preschool anymore.<br><br>
Actually, she's always been super attached to me, at all ages. As an infant, she wanted me to hold her all the time. She nursed all the time as a toddler. She didn't like to be left with other people, or held by others very often. I guess it will all come in time, and I know she's still so young. At the same time, I get concerned about it too.
 

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My mom says my first sentence was "I wanna go home!".<br><br>
I would still rather hang out at home, reading, cooking, playing all day than be just about anwhere else. My DH is happiest on the go. So we have both learned to give a little and enjoy both things.<br><br>
But it wasn't until I was in college that I really learned to enjoy being around other people. I still get overhelmed by crowed places, my brain seems to "shut down" just a bit. I can't distinguish conversations in a crowded room and I can't recognize individual people (sometimes even DH) in a crowd. So parties and restaurants are a challenge!<br><br>
I also only have one or two good friends at a time, and the only one I share my heartfelt feelings with is DH.<br><br>
The good news? I am also a successful engineer and manager. I have 40 people who report to me and we all function well because I have to see them all as individuals. This personality isn't something that needs "fixing", but foster the positive aspects of it.<br><br>
Exposure to social situations is great, and help teach coping skills while there. But fosus on your DD's strengths and help her gently expand them. But really there is nothing to worry about unless it becomes a phobia.
 

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Not much time to respond, but the answer is yes and yes! My 3.5 yo is content to stay home all the time; even better if he gets to stay home in his pj's....
 

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mine is very much so. she's not shy or introverted-she just likes being in her home/yard/room playing with her things. it can be a challenge because she has an older sister who has to go go go. quite often dh and I split them up.
 

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Glad to know there are other kids who like to stay home. My almost 3yo ds doesn't like to go out much. When we do get out, he has fun but tends to get a little too excited. He doesn't mind crowds and lots of kids but seems to prefer the quiet of home. I am also a homebody so it is fine with me to stay in, especially in the cold.
 
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