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She's jealous of me nursing her two year old brother. She still nurses, BTW, but she's angry that I don't drop him on demand. She was sitting in my room screaming and crying with the door open, screaming for me -- I told her she could get up and come out and went to get a snack -- and when I came back, she had peed in her pants. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">: She pretends she can't talk and when I told her to tell me why she peed in her pants (on my bed, BTW) she finally told me, "I'm a baby."<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/angry.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="angry">
 

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Well, first <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">. On the plus side, at least she can verbalize wanting to be a baby. My 2 are four years apart, but oldest is very high needs and sensitive. She went through wanting to be a baby and wear a diaper. I called her bluff, we put one on her and she could not let go and wet in it. We discussed how long she had been potty trained, etc. Maybe ask your daughter if she wants a diaper, why, etc. I also spent lots of time talking to DD about how she had me all to herself and how her brother has always had to share. She enjoys this still and it makes dealing with little brother a little better for her. I would also be very matter of fact and let her know if she does it again, she will be cleaning it up. When she cleans it and you help her, avoid talking and eye contact, thereby removing the attention she is getting. Even negative attention can have it's appeal.<br>
Good luck,<br>
Pamela
 

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ITA - feed the behaviour you like, and starve the behaviour you don't like. So if she's peeing, she can help clean it up and just MOVE ON. If she thinks doing it will get her more of your time/attention, then she's going to continue. In the meantime, maybe you and she can play a 'baby me' game while dc2 is sleeping/napping? Just a little you and she time WITH a babydoll that you two can baby/pamper together. Show her how to do it by doing it with her, and hopefully she will start to take on the imaginary stuff for herself. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1"> Hey - a girl can't but try, huh!? Good luck, mama!
 

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Ack! What a great attention getter she found!<br><br>
We play 'baby' games when my real baby is asleep... plus I wear my 3.5 yo so she can have some closeness. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1"> My dh laughs at me, but I've found that preventing the breakdowns in my jealous girl is worth the time investment, even if it is silly that the baby is on the floor and the child is being carried on my back. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 
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