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He was Ec'd since 1 mos old. He has been fully potty independent for what feels like forever. Somehow I missed the wiping window of opportunity and now he outright refuses to even try or just hold the wipe. I tried the "I do the first wipe" and hoped that he would do the 2nd..absolutely not.<br>
anyone have any ideas that might work or did work at least for your kid.<br>
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Around late age 3 to mid 4 my children who had been wiping before stopped wanting to wipe themselves and demanded help. I just waited it out and at different times would ask them to wipe first then I would help if they needed it. I've also used wet flushable wipes in the bathroom off and on in hopes that would convince them to wipe on their own. At this point my ds1 won't wipe himself and I would love it if I could convince him to as it gets more difficult to bend over and help.
 

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I would just wipe him for now and know that it won't be forever that you have to.<br><br>
My 4.5 yo (when he poos in the toilet) can wipe himself, but he doesn't do the best job so as much as I cringe when I hear, "MOM, can you wipe me?!" I do it b/c at least I know I can get him clean.<br><br>
My 6 yo has been wiping himself for at least the last yr and a half - this reminds me that it won't be long until my 4 yo does it on his own, and does a good job.<br><br>
Maybe he'll surprise you and start doing it on his own very soon.
 

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When ds was 5, I bribed him majorly to get him to wipe himself. At 5, he was receptive to it. At 4, no way would he have even tried.
 

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I wiped ds until he was 5.5. He wasn't interested earlier and to be honest - probably wasn't capable of doing a very good job. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1"><br><br>
But once he started, he never asked for my help again and no skid marks. Kinda worth it. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br>
I'd just wipe him for now - I'm willing to bet in the near future he'll be ready to do it himself.
 

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I'm going through something similar, too. DS will be 4 in Jan and while he can physically wipe himself, I'm just like Drummer's Wife - when he asks for me to do it for him, at least I know that I'm getting him clean 100%.<br>
I had noticed that he had streaks in his undies from going poo at preschool but have not seen those at all in the past week or so, so he must be doing a much better job of it at school. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up"><br>
Your LO will get there and like pp have said, maybe he'll surprise you and just start doing it himself overnight!<br><br>
GL!
 

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Alright I'll back off.
 

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My oldest Ds just started to complete his toileting this year, and the motivation was his little brother learning to wipe himself (who was 3) !! He has sensory issues with touching his body, preferring me to still wash parts of him and shampoo his hair. This is coming along too. It seemed the more pressure I put on him to "get on with it" the worse he felt and the worse I felt, so it was an unpleasant cycle. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"><br><br>
He is now well on his way though, and Ds2 is sooo much more inclined towards self-care, so I'm relieved, lol. It's tough, but like late-fill-in-the-blank anything, they learn eventually. Good luck!!!
 

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For me I don't really mind quite yet...DD1 is 5 and while she shows some interest in wanting to at this point I almost prefer to do it because I know she is getting clean....and won't make a mess. I have a niece who last year when she was 6 yrs. old went into our bathroom and she made a BIG mess...(tmi) she had poop everywhere on the seat and on the handle of the bathroom faucet!!! Plus before she started kindergarten she used to come over and play a lot and take baths with dd1 and I ALWAYS noticed how gross her undies were.<br><br>
So I am not in a huge hurry to have her wipe herself, at least totally by herself. Sometimes I just do the first wipe really good and then let her finish.<br><br>
My mom was still wiping me at 7yrs. old (at home anyways) and she told me the same thing....she didn't mind because she knew she could avoid nasty undies..
 

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My 4 y/o asks me to wipe him every time. I have started asking him to wipe first, before I help, because I want him to have the confidence/understanding that he *could* wipe himself if he had to go at preschool, when nobody was there to wipe him. I don't mind wiping most of the time, because his arms aren't really long enough to do a thorough job - although I wish he were independent. I just keep trying to remember that it won't last forever.
 

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My very soon to be 5 yr old still asks me to wipe, which i'm ok with, he's just not ready. My 7 yr old was similar and was able to do it more himself closer to 5.5 so I'm just waiting it out myself.<br><br>
I did ask him what he plans on doing once he goes to school and he simpley said he'd do it himself!!!
 

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If there is a "window of opportunity", I've missed it also! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br>
My oldest didn't start wiping himself until he went to kindergarten -- 5 years and 2 months old.<br><br>
My almost-5-year-old just doesn't seem capable of doing it right, to me, and so we haven't even tried. I'd much rather do it myself (gag) than have a mess all over the place (gag x 2).
 

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Do it for a few more weeks without making it an issue. Then proclaim one day he'll be wiping himself now. I'm sure it will get boring really soon waiting on the toilet. This is if he's physically able to wipe of course.
 
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