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what's up with 4 year olds? I've been having a rough, rough time with my dd lately, she turned 4 last november. Mainly she has a short fuse, freaking out at the least provocation, and I have been responding the same way; being really short tempered with her. Yelling, even , which is something my mom did a lot of and I am NOT happy to see myself following her patterns.<br><br>
the thing I realized recently is that when dd was a toddler, I was able to understand what was going on with her and sympathize with why she was struggling and freaking out and stuff. But now, well, i just don't get what the problem is, and so I get frustrated.<br><br>
Obviously I need to do some work here, but I think part of it is that I need to know what kinds of developmental stuff is going on, and what is normal and regular for a preschooler her age. I think I have in some way lost touch with my compassion for how hard it is to be a kid her age...She super articulate and smart, and very socially capable, which i think might make me expect too much from her?<br><br>
anyway, any info at all is appreciated. I'm off to GD to get some advice with regards to my yelling....
 

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I just replied to the other challenging four year olds post. Wanted to say that I could have written your post, except that ds1 turned 4 in Jan. I don't like how frustrated I get and I wonder if expecting too much of him. Off to GD for me, too.
 

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Oh, I was just about to come here because my four year old is into raging, and sometimes it practically seems like he really stretches to invent something to freak out about... I mean if I thought his tantrums were bad before, these make the old tantrums look like a hug and a kiss...
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/gloomy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Gloomy">: I thought 4 was the "Magical" Age.<br><br>
DS turns 4 in July. His 3s have been hard.
 

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Another mom struggling with a 4 yo here. We've got a newborn (5 days old), but DD was acting out before he came. Getting angry or frustrated very easily over what seems like nothing to me, contradicting just about everything I say just b/c she can, getting into things she knows are not for her (scissors, lotions, etc.), making messes and being destructive when she knows it will make me unhappy (spitting food on the floor, drawing on the couch with a red crayon <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/angry.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="angry"> ... the list goes on. She used to be so sweet and eager to please. What on earth happened to my little angel?<br><br>
Sorry - I'm not trying to hijack, just commiserating. I'll be lurking!
 
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