[MamaDelz]

So my 4 year old son was totally potty trained, got up every morning to go pee in the bathroom. Now, for the last month or so he wakes up and just pees in his bed. This happens most mornings. I think a few times he went in his sleep, but most of the time he is awake when he does it..

Anyone else had this happen? What is happening and how can we get him to stop?

He really does not care if he is wet, never has, potty trained at 3 1/2. I tried putting a pull up or a diaper cover over his underware and that just seems to give him more permission to pee. he says, I'm wearing a diaper!

Any ideas, tips, anything would be great!!

 

[AllisonR]

Maybe in a gentle, respectful, but firm way, have your DS clean up his own mess. That means strip the bed, bring the sheets to the laundry room, get new sheets, make the bed... Might take you and your DS an hour or two that way, versus 15 minutes for you to do it yourself, but after 2 or 3 times I bet your DS will figure out it is easier to go to the toilet than all that work! Seems like the obvious natural consequence IMO.

I think it really depends on child's personality though. DS was never interested in if he was wet either. Then one day at 3.5 he decided he was ready, and was fine after only a few weeks. We kept a night diaper on him though. Then at a little over 4 yo he decided not to have a night diaper either, and he has not wet the bed, not once. He is a perfectionist though, won't do anything until he can do it perfect. When he was potty learning, if he wet himself, I never ever gave him a hard time, but just matter of fact had him take off the wet clothes, put them down by the washer, get the new clothes, put them on... and yes, it took FOREVER, but he was doing all the effort, and he decided it was a lot faster peeing in the toilet than in his pants.

 

[octobermom]

His body might not be as developed as we'd like even if it was previously. I'd leave a clean set of sheets and clothing somewhere and let him know calmly if his bed is wet he needs to strip his bed and clothing ect take the wet clothes to the laundry change and how to help make a clean bed. It both enforces boundries that he needs to take responsibility if its a "game" and gives him some power over a bodily function he may not be able to totally controll if its not.

Deanna

 

[flowers]

We just had the same situation. Ds1 was potty learned at 3 ish and has been able to stay dry at night almost 90% of the time from 3.5 and on. All of the sudden in the last month (he is now 4.5) he wet the bed every night! We co-sleep and it was driving me crazy because it was so much laundry and we have a really nice futon. We use the laundromat and it was costing us an arm and a leg.

Finally after so many nights in the row (and him refusing to wake to pee in teh middle of the night) we asked him what we should do b/c we could not have him pee in the bed every night and he suggested pullups. He wore them for 3 nights and *hated* them and was able to stay dry so we are back to no pull-ups and no accidents (for two nights). I hope it was just a mini-phase.

 

[MamaDelz]

Thanks.. I will try having him remake the bed.. we co-sleep half the time also and it is NO FUN! And maybe just talking to him and seeing what he thinks we should do..