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For all of you who have been here (41+ weeks with no signs of impending labour), could you please share your stories?<br><br>
My first 2 kids were also 41+ weeks, but were both induced (dd for elevated blood pressure, ds because my water broke without labour starting, my choice). This babe is currently 41+1 and everything's fine...I'd like to wait it out and let labour start naturally (dr will let me go to 42 weeks without talking induction), but I'm starting to get disheartened by the lack of anything productive happening! Like, no mucous plug, no bloody show, nothing!<br><br>
Please help me be patient.<br><br>
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DS1 was born at 43+5 weeks (long story, but basically even talking about induction was out of the question, as I got up and walked out of a c-section at 37+5) calmly, gently and peacefully at home after a 17 hour total labour, about 9 of which was active and all of which was painless. His birth story is in the birth stories forum here, if you want to search for it- I reposted it when I was term with Skye... oh, and he was born with significant head markings which made the midwife think that he'd been a brow presentation until just before birth.<br>
DD2 was born gently and peacefully at home at 42 weeks after a freakily fast active labour and lots of niggles- we literally had the midwife out 9 times between Halloween and her birth day on the 26th. She was my third full-termer too, and anecodotally, third babies seem to be more likely to give you a hard time. In the end, though, it was so worth spending a month with a TENS machine strapped to my back niggling my way through absolutely no signs of active labour. I had some bloody show, but no leaks, nothing...
 

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i went to 42 weeks with dd. i remember how hard it was. i didn't have any major signs before labor started either. i think the hardest part for me was just believing that i really was going to have a baby on my own. after a while and enough stupid "are you <i><b>still</b></i> pregnant?" calls from well meaning family members i started to feel like i was going to be pregnant forever (really). my saving grace was "no baby talk" days. the people i was around weren't allowed to mention the fact that i was pg, or talk about anything baby related. i just wanted to feel normal. so i guess what i'm saying is do what you have to do to preserve your sanity. if that means going for a massage, or getting your hair done, or even just pretending you're not pg for the day, then do it! you can do this! your body knows how to go into labor on it's own. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 

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Thank you for your stories - it's good to know I'm not the only one this has happened to. I'm feeling more patient today - a decent night of sleep last night surely helped.<br><br>
Anyone else have a story to share?
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> from a fellow Jan DDCer <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br>
My dd (my 2nd baby) was 10 days past her due date. I had no signs or anything until I went into labor that evening. Looking back, I wish I had taken extra naps that week <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br>
But labor was great and her birth was wonderful.<br>
I hope your time is fast approaching for you!
 

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I can't offer any advice, but wanted to let you know you're not alone - I'm 42+2 today, and like you I've had NO signs at all that anything is going to happen.<br><br>
I'm booked for an induction beginning monday night, and although I know at this point it's probably the best thing for me to do I'm struggling to come to terms that I won't get my homebirth, that I won't labour naturally or spontaneously, all of those things.<br><br>
Plus I am SO sick of the "did you have it yet??" messages <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">:<br><br>
On the bright side, it won't be much longer until we have our babies in our arms *hugs*
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I can't offer any advice, but wanted to let you know you're not alone - I'm 42+2 today, and like you I've had NO signs at all that anything is going to happen.<br><br>
I'm booked for an induction beginning monday night, and although I know at this point it's probably the best thing for me to do I'm struggling to come to terms that I won't get my homebirth, that I won't labour naturally or spontaneously, all of those things.<br><br>
Plus I am SO sick of the "did you have it yet??" messages <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">:<br><br>
On the bright side, it won't be much longer until we have our babies in our arms *hugs*</div>
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]<br><br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> give your baby a few more days!! i had my second at 42+2 and it took castor oil and lemon verbena oil to help her along.. have you thought of trying some more "natural" ways of getting baby started? you can still have your natural birth at home!! (eta my midwife gives till 43 weeks before talking about induction..)
 

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You should feel proud that your baby is safe inside for as long as s/he needs. Enjoy this time! They will be a lot more work for you on the outside!! Mine were 10 days "late" (c/s) and 14 days "late" (HBAC). Get a pedicure and a baby massage. Just say NO NO NO to all induction methods ...except the ones that make DH happy! :)
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">]<br><br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> give your baby a few more days!! i had my second at 42+2 and it took castor oil and lemon verbena oil to help her along.. have you thought of trying some more "natural" ways of getting baby started? you can still have your natural birth at home!! (eta my midwife gives till 43 weeks before talking about induction..)</div>
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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/nod.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="nod">... babies come when they are ready... there are many babies born at 44 weeks who are totally healthy and everything. as long as the baby is still moving and you feel good. Patience and positive thinking are key<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
(I'm not a part of this due date club, but thought I send some positive thoughts.)
 

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Big hugs, suzylou. LMK if you decide to decline induction in the end and you want to talk to someone who's BTDT with the NHS...
 

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my youngest was born at 42+2 and all went well despite much consternation on my part. My first babies (twins) were induced at 34 weeks so *I* was ready to have him back that early. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 
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