My son showed very little interest in toilet-training until he was 4 1/2. We wanted to follow his lead so we let him decide when he was ready. When he decided he wanted to pee in the potty (in order to be able to do "extended day" at his pre-school) he mastered it in one day. The pooping has been another matter. Sometimes the poop will just come out when he is on the toilet and he is thrilled and proud. However, if he senses it coming, he holds it in, sometimes for days, and then tearfully asks us for a diaper to poop in. I can tell that he wants to poop in the potty, he just can't seem to get over some anxiety he has about it. My husband and I are at a loss of how to help him. Should we just tell him he needs to poop in the toilet and not let him have the diaper? Should we let him just hold it in until he's so uncomfortable that he requests the diaper? I would appreciate other peoples' insights/experience/suggestions. Thanks!