Is he 50% of the parent now? If not, See what you can do to prove that.
50/50 custody for young children
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i don't know ... my sister was a sahm and the judge ordered 50/50 custody which ultimately ended up with him getting sole custody (well there's more to it than that but we'll leave it there). you never know what will happen if it gets in front of a judge
are you able to work this out between the two of you? is your STBX just making empty threats?
i'm sorry, this must be so stressful for you
Does he really WANT to do 50% of the parenting, or is he trying to avoid cs? As you are no doubt aware, lawyers of divorcing men use custody demands as a weapon to try to get the women to agree to lower support payments, no alimony, etc. It would be useful to know if this is a true desire to become an equal parent (in which case you might want to consider it, perhaps agree to a 50/50 split starting when the kids are in grade school) or just a tactic.
As PPs have said, every state is different in what the "norm" is. You need a good lawyer now. Do whatever you have to to pay for it, it's worth it.
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If you need to settle for 50/50, I'd suggest working in chunks of week-on, week-off rather than shuttling back and forth throughout the week. But what I'd REALLY suggest is getting a good lawyer who is committed to building a strong case for you as the primary custodial parent until the kids are older.
As PPs have said, every state is different in what the "norm" is. You need a good lawyer now. Do whatever you have to to pay for it, it's worth it.
If you need to settle for 50/50, I'd suggest working in chunks of week-on, week-off rather than shuttling back and forth throughout the week. But what I'd REALLY suggest is getting a good lawyer who is committed to building a strong case for you as the primary custodial parent until the kids are older.
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