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My solid fed 6 months old, just doesn't seem to be as interested in nursing anymore!! He "eats" 3 times a day(because he wasn't nursing like he should), I nurse him before and after, i'm lucky if he does 5 minutes on one side. I also nurse him before and after naps. But the only time he really seams interested in nursing is when he wakes up in the morning, before going to sleep and the for one nighttime feeding. Could he be possible weaning himself already?<br>
I was never one of those mother's that enjoyed breastfeeding, I just did it because it was/is the best and the right thing for my son, but now i'm starting to miss that time.<br>
What's going on with him.
 

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6 month olds don't need to eat solid food 3 times a day. How long has he been on solids? Any food given up until a year is only experimental for baby and should be very very little. Also, babies under the age of 2 do not self wean. What is most important now is mothers milk. He should be getting most of his calories from that. I would drastically cut down his solids until he is nursing fully again. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> I know nursing isn't always enjoyable all the time but they grow so quickly. What your little one needs now is mostly your milk. I would even go as far as cutting out solids all together and picking up again in a couple of months.
 

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Yep, get rid of the solids. Up to a year, even longer, baby mainly needs the nutrition of your milk. Like the pp said, there is no need to introduce solids so soon because it's all about them learning textures, not to really eat. The food has very little nutritional value to these young bodies. Your milk is packed with everything baby needs.<br><br>
Babies this age do not self-wean. They have periods of disinterest, especially around milestones (crawling, walking, etc.) but they are not trying to wean. There is no need for the solids, so I would just put them away for now and get baby back to the breast more often.<br><br>
My own dd didn't start solids until she was about a year. I tried a couple of times before then, thinking she was interested, but mainly she wanted something squishy to play with. When she did finally start solids, she went straight to table food that was baby friendly (peas, small bits of other vegetables that she couldn't choke on, soft fruits, bits of bread, etc.)<br><br>
Best of luck!
 

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I think that if it is between solids and breastmilk at six months you need to simmer down on the solids. I am confused as to why you think that a six month old needs as much as you are giving him. He is deifnately not selfweaning. That is literally impossible at six months. He needs nourishment from your milk until he is much older. You should cut back on the solids and only give him some occasional soft foods and try to get him on the breast for regular feedings.
 

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Six month olds are so distractable that sometimes it seems like they would rather do anything than nurse! I remember a period of time around that age when I had to put a cloth over J's head while she nursed because the sight of my HAIR was distracting her from feeding. I wasn't allowed to read, watch tv, eat, or even drink water without her pulling off and becoming disinterested.<br><br>
I agree with the other posters: cut back on the solids to one meal/snack per day (and make it super nutritious food like sweet potato or avocado so it's not just taking up space in his tummy). Offer to nurse really often, and try nursing somewhere boring so he is not constantly looking at what is going on around him. He may be more likely to nurse when he's sleepy, so maybe move his solid meal/snack to an awake time, rather than before bed.
 

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Let him self feed only when you give him food so that he isnt overeating like spoon feeding does. I agree with everyone else cut out most of the food and he will nurse more.<br><br>
By the way nursing just 5 min per side is perfectly fine and normal. Both mine only nursed 5min most of the time per feed from birth. 10 min was a super long nursing session for my ds at 6mo.
 

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Way WAY too early to wean. Babies need to nurse for 2 years. Drop the solids all together for awhile. When you restart- no spoon feeding, only self-feeding. Always nurse before soilds for the whole first year.<br><br>
good luck!<br><br>
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I had a super quick eater a(5 min. max) nd she was also easily distracted around 6-7 mos of age. For a few weeks we nursed lying down in my dark bedroom - but then that time passed and we were able to nurse anywhere again.<br><br>
You mentioned that your dc wasn't eating like he should - was there a weight gain issue? What was you dc birth weight and current weight?<br><br>
I would be a little hesitant about maintaining/increasing his solid food intake - there have neen studies linked to early food consumption to health risks later on in life. This was the 1st site that I found with that info...<a href="http://www.breastfeed-essentials.com/solidfood.html" target="_blank">http://www.breastfeed-essentials.com/solidfood.html</a> - NOte, that it says nothing but breastmilk until ATLEAST SIX MONTHS. Which means, really food should just have begun to be introduced (as in, "here, try this little spoon full" not "chow down kiddo!" <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">)
 

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I agree with everyone else - stop the solids. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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6 month olds don't self wean. They can wean, when less breast and more food and drink is offered, however. That's not self- weaning.
 

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3 meals a day doesn't usually happen until babe is at least a year old (more like 18months with my dd). Cut back to solids 1x a day and nurse, nurse, nurse because at this rate he'd be weaned within a few months<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad">
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">My solid fed 6 months old, just doesn't seem to be as interested in nursing anymore!! He "eats" 3 times a day(because he wasn't nursing like he should), I nurse him before and after, i'm lucky if he does 5 minutes on one side. I also nurse him before and after naps. But the only time he really seams interested in nursing is when he wakes up in the morning, before going to sleep and the for one nighttime feeding. Could he be possible weaning himself already?<br>
I was never one of those mother's that enjoyed breastfeeding, I just did it because it was/is the best and the right thing for my son, but now i'm starting to miss that time.<br>
What's going on with him.</div>
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Eating 3 times a day was a result of not wanting to nurse, starting at the middle of last month. We started solids at 4 months(per his Doctor- and he was ready). Since I notice my supply starting to change i've cut back on food by nursing every 3 hours( which happens to fall before naptimes) I give him a quickie nurse when he wakes up from each nap(and in the AM), and I nurse(as much as he wants) before meals. He is spoon fed, but when he is done, there is no more feeding him!!! He WILL NOT open his mouth, but sometimes he will still eat all of the food I give him(mainly in the AM & PM), our nursing sessions last about 5 minutes. He used to be a marathon nurser when he was younger. Someone else said 5 minutes is fine for nursing, but has he just started drinking faster???? Or is he just enjoying flashing my breast to everyone, looking around and noticing everything else for the time being and will eventually start paying attention to what he is doing again??
 

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My son has never nursed for very long at a time. He's still not eating solids 3x a day at 21 months. Please don't take nutrition advise from your dr. Most dr's know very very little about breastfeeding. Lay off the solids and your baby will start nursing more. He knows how much he needs and I promise he won't starve himself. Best of luck!
 

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Babies should not be started on solids at 4 months. That likely contributed to the problem. I'd stop the solids.
 

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Another vote for "stop the solids." If you were having supply issues, the answer shouldn't have been to introduce solids -- that will just mean less nursing, which means you body responds by making less milk (the whole supply and demand thing). If you can swing it, spend a day, an afternoon, whatever with you and the babe in bed. Topless would be good for lots of skin to skin. That should help get him interested in nursing. Let him nurse for 2 seconds if he wants, even if it's 2 seconds out of every minute. If your supply is dwindling enough that you think he's weaning, you need to take action to boost your supply.<br><br>
Good luck!
 

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When you start solids before six months, they are known to replace nutrition from bmilk. You are much more likely to supliment bmilk nutrion *after* six months.<br><br>
I would ask your doctor why he feels your child should not follow the schedule recommended by the APA for bfed babies.<br><br>
Now I would cut down on solids. No spoon feeding. No bottles, no pacifiers. Offer at least every 1-2 hours during the day.<br><br>
Good luck!
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">We started solids at 4 months(per his Doctor- and he was ready).</div>
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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/jaw2.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="jaw2"> Time to find a new doctor. Wow! Just Wow! I would point your ped. to the American Academy of Pediatrics and tell him he needs some updated education. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/bigeyes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="bigeyes"> I can't even imagine feeding a 4 mos. old solids. As soon as you start <i>any</i> solids, you are starting the weaning process...and if you are feeding him three times a day, I am surprised he is not weaned already.<br><br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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<div style="font-style:italic;">He used to be a marathon nurser when he was younger. Someone else said 5 minutes is fine for nursing, but has he just started drinking faster???? Or is he just enjoying flashing my breast to everyone, looking around and noticing everything else for the time being and will eventually start paying attention to what he is doing again??</div>
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Yep, 6 mos. old are notorious for playing "boob peek-a-boo". They are just realizing how many great things there are to look at. I precisely remember my younger brother saying when my ds was 6 mos. old, "it's just weird how he keeps coming off and looking all around". <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">: 5 minutes is just fine for nursing if that is mostly what baby is getting. If you still desire baby to keep nursing, which is the most healthful option and the only nutrients that a 6 mos. old needs, then you need to cut solids out now almost totally or it will be just a matter of days until your little one is totally weaned...and at that point you will have to supplement with formula because babies need milk until at the very least, 1 year of age. Mother's milk is soooo much more for him right now.
 

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Dump the solids, along with the stupid ped. - 6 months is WAY too young to wean, and it wouldn't be SELF weaning if it happened. If I suspected my child, at that age, was losing intrest in nursing the solids would DISAPPEAR. Nurse more frequently. Ofter at EVERY opportunity. Good luck.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">:As soon as you start <i>any</i> solids, you are starting the weaning process...and if you are feeding him three times a day, I am surprised he is not weaned already.</div>
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LOL...tell that to my kid--he started solids at 4 months due to extreme low supply (so he was getting a lot of formula through a supplemental nursing system) and the fact that he was extremely underweight and nobody could figure out why (turned out he had reflux and Celiac disease). He's 3 years old and still nurses 4-7 times a day (with no formula or SNS). <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br>
I think I'm going to take a different approach to this--everyone is mentioning the solids... I'm going to go back to your first post where you said that you didn't like breastfeeding but did it because it was right. I wonder if somehow your dislike of nursing could be contributing? Don't ask-don't refuse is also a weaning technique--basically you don't offer unless your child asks...many children will wean if they are not offered. When my son refused to nurse (2 months old until 3 months old), I basically walked around with no shirt on, carried him in a sling up against my breasts, and let him have access all day long and all night long, no restrictions (um, it was winter, so it was cold...turn your heat up if you do that... <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> )<br><br>
The other thing...is there something in your diet he may not like? If your milk tastes funny because he can't tolerate dairy or something, he may not wish to nurse. I also determined that when I was about to get my period, Brandon wouldn't want to nurse very much--now that he is older, he says that the milk tastes different then...<br><br>
Good luck and I hope you can get him back on the breast. I do agree that 6 months old is way too young to wean--at that age, they should still be on quite a bit of breastmilk...a formula fed baby would still be getting formula at that age...
 
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