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My son just turned 6 last week...he potty learned shortly after he was 3. He'd have the ocassional daytime accident but they were months in-between. He's started having a few accidents a week (over the last 6 months or so) and I just got a call from his teacher that he had one at school today so he was coming home in different clothes.<br><br>
He has always been a "hold it as long as possible" type of kid but would always go. Now he just seems to have a lot of anxiety about going...like he'll argue with me "I don't have to, I don't have to" and then two seconds later the floodgates have opened. Some of his accidents are when he's focused on an activity (he has Asperger's Syndrome and can hyperfocus big time) and others don't appear to have any rhyme or reason to them. He also doesn't appear to be too uncomfortable about them. He had a massive accident about 10 minutes before meet the teacher night (pants and shirt were soaked) and was like "I'm ok, let's go meet her." He didn't get the concept that he really needed a change of clothing. So there's no internal understanding that socially this is not considered 'normal'. No understanding = no motivation to change. I just hope to heck he isn't teased because of it today.<br><br>
Sooooo...does anyone have any ideas on helping my son understand that when he has the "pee pee feeling" that he needs to stop what he is doing and go to the restroom?
 

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This sounds exactly like my DS, who will be 8 in a week. Though he doesn't hav the Asperger's. I so completely do not understand that he doesn't even notice that he is wet or that it smells. I can tell when he's had an accident from across the room from the smell, but he never seems to notice.<br><br>
Honestly I have stopped trying to get him to "feel" when he needs to go and concentrated instead on instilling a routine so he goes to the toilet every couple of hours, whether he "needs" to or not. I now insist that he use the toilet before getting into the car and make sure he goes to the restroom before going to his classroom. He knows is he is supposed to go at recess, lunch and after sports at school, so that minimizes the school issues. It was hard getting him to this routine but I finally was really honest and explained that he would be teased and that kids would be reluctant to play with him if he smelled like dried urine.<br><br>
Its harder at home because there aren't the routine breaks. I've taken to setting the timer on the microwave on weekends when we are home and sending him to the bathroom when it rings.<br><br>
We did check with the pediatrician to make sure that there wasn't any obvious physical cause for this. There wasn't and she said some kids are just not very sensative to the sensations of needing to go.<br><br>
We have also realized that he has a moderate lactose intolerance issue that was causing bowel movement acccidents. Removing milk and ice cream from his diet has completely solved that issue.
 
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